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I haven't posted on mdc in a long time but I knew there would be some mamas here who can lend an ear and some encouragement/advice.
My stbx is moving out at the end of the month. He's filed a dissolution. I want to try to make it work, but on the other hand I know it's best for us to go our separate ways. Anyway, I see a lawyer on Thursday and I'm coming up with a list of questions. If you've already been through this is there something you wish you had thought about before everything was final?
Here's my situation:
Sahm of 3 yo twins, currently undergoing breast cancer treatment and starting grad school in the fall. Not able to work right now due to treatment and the cost of childcare being more than I would make. We have no property to split so basically I'm looking at child support, possible spousal support and I'm going to ask that he pay my health insurance premiums until I'm done with treatment.
Anyone been in a similar situation with being a sahm or needing health insurance? And do you start to feel better once you get the process going or not until after it's all done and you move on. This just sucks!
So sorry ladies that I didn't reply sooner but thank you all so much for your support.
The stuff has really hit the fan now! He's moving out this weekend and he's also stopping his paycheck from going into our account. I asked him how I was supposed to pay rent and utilities and feed our kids. He shrugged - it's not his problem. It will be months before the dissolution (or possible divorce) is final and I have no clue what I'm going to do until then. I've applied for home heating assistance and I'm going to apply for food stamps this week but I have no way to pay car payment, ins, or gas and rent.
I just don't understand how a person could do that to another person and their own children and not feel a shred of remorse. I have no clue what I'm going to do. I'm not huge on the praying thing, but prayers are needed in the worst way here!
Also, have you applied for TANF? If you don't have an income, and his income is something you no longer have access to, then you should qualify for TANF. You would have to prove bank account stuff, etc., but hopefully you would be able to be qualified for that as of 3-1 JIC you haven't gotten anywhere with the emergency support orders.
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