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to DD 1 & DD 2 & engaged to DF
First of all, I can only imagine how difficult this is for you and your ds.
As for your letter, I think that he might view it as a very long laundry list of what he isn't doing correctly and how what he is doing is physically harming and emotionally affecting his son's well-being, which I know is not your intention.
You used all the proper pronouns needed to make it appear you were not blaming him. I am sorry, but there definitely felt like some serious undertones of insincerity and blame in your letter, in addition to condescending. Now, I completely understand why they would be there, especially considering your situation and feelings with your X. But, he will read them loud and clear.
If I were you, I would stick with 2 MAJOR issues that are of serious concern (and can be documented by a doctor or psychotherapist) for your ds.
If your ds has any kind of allergies... get it documented. Get to the doctor.
If you ds is not seeing a therapist, I strong suggest you find him one, so she can start helping your ds (and you) deal with these huge changes in his life. In addition, she will also document any behavior changes that she feels are detrimental to your ds' well-being.
Your X is NOT going to listen to you and he is definitely NOT going to take your advice. At least not right now. You need as much professional documentation that you can get to take with you to court.
I am so sorry that you and your ds are going through this. Hang in there!
Other than that, I would suggest standing back and allowing him to parent the way he chooses and you parent the way you choose. I would suggest trying to see it as a positive for your child.
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