Join Date: Apr 2009
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
|As far as you deciding who will be with your child and who will not, you have no control over that decision. The court can and will decide that for you, just as it did for your mother many years ago. Let's see how you do as a single Mom? It's always easy to say how you would have won the race when you are sitting on the bench.|
|California Family Code let’s grandparents file for visitation:
· If one of the child’s parents has died.
· If the grandchild’s parents are no married, separated, or divorced.
· During custody proceedings.
· If the child is not living with either parent.
· There must be a pre-established grandparent-grandchild relationship.
· Visits cannot get in the way of a parent’s own visitations.
· Visits must be in the best interest of the grandchild.
It was nice of them to send you an email documenting their hostility and untrustworthiness. They also aren't terribly familiar with the law.
Generally, grandparents' rights are a matter of parental choice. Courts get involved in cases where grandparents have held custody of a child for a period of time, or where one parent is deceased and the surviving parent denies contact with grandparents.
Consulting a lawyer to be certain of the law in your state would be a good thing to do. .
It would be chilling to read those words from a parent. From anyone, really, but extra ouch!
I would consult with a lawyer just to find out what the law has to say. May bring huge peace of mind.
I would also document everything. Do they send gifts? Call? What kind of contact have you had with them over the last few years? I would absolutely save anything as bullying and threatening as the email you've shared.
I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this and I wish that I had better and more informed information to offer you.
For some reason my DH and I both follow those high profile court cases. We have fine relationships with both of our parents and they see our children as we can (all live in different states).
But we're both adamant that GRANDPARENTS have NO RIGHTS to their grand-children. Parents have rights to their OWN children. The grandparents rights ended.
We're not lawyers or anything and we're not involved in anything ugly but I just want to support you. Parents get one shot to raise children and it was their own. They do not get another shot at "raising" or even visiting their grandchildren. They earn that privilege through the relationship they developed while raising their own kids - not through court-enforced "rights." They have no rights to those kids any more than *I* have rights to see your kids (as far as I'm concerned.)
again - I'm not saying anything legal here, just climbing on my soap box to support you!