I suppose I'd fall into the divorced category. I was with dp for almost ten years, although we never married we had children together and planned to parent them together.
He had an affair an now I'm single... I suppose you could call that a happy accident :)
Cool thread! I forget to pop in here a lot..but I'm in an 'other' as well.
I was with my child's father when I conceived, he continued to get more abusive - I said see ya. Packed my bags and headed home 600 miles north. I wasn't going to first of all - deal with more abuse, second - have MY child deal with the abuse, and third - I'm not gonna raise two babies and pay for and run the entire household. Sorry! It's cheaper anyway being without him.
So..happy accident I suppose. Hoping to never hear from him again (I'm STILL pregnant with said child at 40w1d lol).
Kaitlyn - 21, single mother to an adorable baby girl born 1/18/2012 (:
Hello mamas, SMBHA here, and would love to hear some thoughts on discussing dad's chosen total uninvolvement with your child... DS is only one but I often wonder how to approach this as biodad lives in the same city and parents his other child, so the "wasn't ready / able to be a dad doesn't really apply. Thanks mamas! I love being a SM, though It is quite challenging trying to do AP with a high needs child solo!
I have a similar issue. I was with DS' father on and off for 7 years. Two of those years I spent in another state, trying the long distance thing. We've always been able to talk to each other for hours, and that was enough for me. When I came home i found that he had gotten a girl from his work pregnant. Their child was deeply involved with XP's family, though the child didn't have contact with him. (I guess that's the different part.) When I got pregnant by accident, XP gave me the "abort or I'll leave" ultimatum (and we can see how that ended up!) I can literally see XP's apartment from my parent's house... We visit on the weekends and I'm really curious how all this is going to pan out. I'm dreading the day DS is old enough to talk and he notices he doesn't have a dad.
mama to (09/11)