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#31 of 35 Old 05-11-2010, 02:27 PM
 
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MY APOLOGIES!!! I meant that MY child support is always paid and my ex is far from financially struggling. Yet he doesn't feed them unless they are with him for more than just an afternoon/evening visit of <4 or 5 hours.
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oh, so sorry for not understanding! LOL but i think there IS an obligation to provide a meal. IME, most orders say that each parent must provide food during his/her parenting time, and if that parenting time falls between 6-8pm it should stand to reason that a meal is obligatory. what is wrong with some men that they dont think to feed their kids? and no matter what i try to do to eliminate the issue, it fails. i try to feed ds before he leaves, he's too hyped up to eat. i plan to have a re-heatable meal ready for when he comes home, he's too tired and cranky to eat so he just pitches a huge fit until he falls asleep on the couch. i'm ready to give up and just let him not eat LOL

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another dinner visit, another dinner not served. at least tonight i didnt offer extra time, so it was only the ordered two hours and ds came home early enough for me to feed him before he got worked up.

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Does your x or his wife offer any suggestions for taking care of this problem? Do they acknowledge the problem? Does his wife not mind her kids not being fed?
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ex's wife loves the idea that i want to pack all his food for him bc it saves her the work of having to worry about feeding him (if you'll recall, she has 5 of her own plus on due soon, and exdh isnt super helpful when it comes to childcare). as far as her kids having or not having food...she's not what most here at mdc would consider a "good" or attentive mother. they eat breakfast and lunch at school and dinner is usually hamburger helper or cold cuts. if they are broke, her family feeds her kids. she doesnt worry about their health the way i consciously and conscientiously worry about my kids.

ex has no suggestions. i gently remind him thats its been an issue and he hangs up the phone. it will come down to court, i just know it. i weigh ds once a week and if her loses so much as one pound again, i will file.

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