It sounds harsh. Some of you are already doing this. Some of us aren't.........but let me back up.
I hear the 'voices' of strong, intelligent, amazing women on this thread. I hear the voices of amazing mothers on this thread. The kind of women our sons will grow up to admire and respect and learn of the amazingness of womankind from. The kinds of women your daughters will grow up to emulate. Bravo, us!!!!!!!
We really do rock. It's a group here I am proud to belong to.
We had a hard April, most of us. There was a happy happy joy joy period in 2009, towards the end there, where some of us chronically loveless were finding or deepening relationships with special someones. A month or three months (or, in Seie's case, a year) later.... gulp. ouch.
We're doing a damn good job letting ourselves be human, juggling other aspects of our lives, etc, but darn it we are not quite as empowered about our dating lives as we could be.
Let's start taking all our amazing power back. Stand up a little straighter, starting today. Remind yourself that you are a goddess, in the mirror. After all, our kids already look at us like that. Men are already noticing us as such. But let's face it, there are users, manipulators, leeches (however you want to call it, potato, potatoe) out there who will latch on (and not in the good way!) and take a little piece of our spirits, and a ton of our energy and time, if we let them.
New protocol. New methods. New hoops that must be jumped through.Don't forget, nothing is more sexy than confidence.Question of the month, ladies: How do you plan on changing your habits to create a dating life that will be more about you calling the shots and seeking out love and romance on your terms?
We're nurturers. Givers by nature. Self-absorbed men (vultures) who love that kind of treatment must find us by our scent or something. Some of the most amazingly caring, nurturing mothers I have ever even heard of (sugar, seie, muse, heck -all of you) are also some women who have certainly been taken out for a temporary fantasy ride and then dumped back on your front porch, back to the grind as a single mama, without a sweetie. It absolutely sucks. But the common denominator is us. How do we
start finding the men with the ice scrapers
and less those Peter Pan types who really are not in a place to create a meaningful family life with a kick-ass single mom like us?
I, for one, am done. No more free rides (in the figurative sense, get your minds out of the gutter). I want a partner- a provider, a supporter, and a male figure who is capable of pulling his weight in the nurturing arena, as well. If he's offering only his time, for who-knows-how-long, then NEXT
!!! This thread is full of MILFs and we don't gotta settle.