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Mama to (DS 7) and (DD 5), wife to DH
He told me again last night that he thinks that he will be moving out by the end of the month because he can’t get over how much I have hurt him by spying on him.
Steph, DH Jason (1-1-11), DS Owen (10-3-03) and DS Kai (10-13-11)
This is called blameshifting...and it's usually used to cover one's own @ss, be it due to infidelity or addiction. He accuses you of emotional detachment so that he can feel justified in continuing to seek out this other woman to "get what he needs".
His refusal to answer your questions is all the proof you need. Reverse the situation: If you were constantly texting a male coworker, going out clubbing with him several nights a week and returning home at 2-3 a.m., how would your H handle that? Would he be satisfied with "this is none of your business"? I think not.
As unpleasant as this is mama, I think you have a decision to make. Is this acceptable to you?