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#1 of 3 Old 06-08-2010, 07:33 AM - Thread Starter
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I hope someone here can give me some perspective. I am a bit postpartum and I don't think I am thinking clearly. I posted this on the Dads section of this site first but was told I should repost over here at the single section.

I have agreed to let my bf have our 3 month old daughter a few days a week at his place. I did not want to do this but…he basically told me if I make him a “weekend dad” he will hate me and take me to court. However, in our state the single mother is given complete custody of the child. He knows this and has said as much . He says it is not fair that I should have our child most of the time. But we don’t live together so what does he expect?. When I say our child needs to bond with me..he says well she needs to bond with him too…He has asked me why he can’t have her live with him and I be the one to visit him.. He also tells me he will not accept not seeing her at least 50% of the time. He talked like this when I was pregnant and we were having our problems in the relationship. Most of the problems in our relationship center around the fact that I am a divorced mom of a 7yr old as well. My 7yr old’s dad picks his child up for visits etc.
What am I supposed to do?..this is his first child and I want to be supportive and fair but what is fair for a father when we are not married or living in the same house?

Thanks in advance for your help on this…
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#2 of 3 Old 06-08-2010, 07:58 AM
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Mama, gently, this is almost the exact same post you have further down the page. You'll probably get the same or similar answers.

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Lattemom, you are did that post get on here?...I thought I posted the 1st one on the dad's area...I'll have to delete this thread.
Thanks for alerting me
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