I know a lot of people said in another thread that overnight visits aren't usually granted for newborns?
I've been trying to find the laws for PA in regards to this. My lawyer consult skirted the question when I asked about this, but led me to beleive it may be possible for STBX to get overnights before one year of age with the LO I'm currently carrying.
I'm freaking out this morning, because I've been reading articles and such on separation anxiety and other pyscological damage early overnights can cause on young children.
I had printed the one off and gave it to STBX. He reacted much as I thought he would.
Telling me how F*ed up I am and what a load of BS, and how out of my mind and selfish I am to think he won't be getting overnights with his baby. I told him it was in the best interest of the baby, and I was in no way trying to keep him from his baby. DD has overnights with him now, but I'm just asking that overnights do not start until at least one year of age.
He went on again about how selfish I am and that any judge will just tell me, "you better get to pumping".
It's not even the pumping part/supply worry that has me... I'm scared of the possible pyscological damage of seperating a newborn from their Mama and what kind of security and attachment issues that is going to cause!!
Not to mention how I went through PPD/separation anxiety with DD when I had to go back to work... I am never going to make it through a whole day/night away from a newborn.
I'm seriously freaking out right now.
STBX told me I should have thought of this before I left him and it proves how selfish I am and how I always want my way. Basically I made my bed and now I have to sleep in it...
I've been trying to find the laws for PA in regards to this. My lawyer consult skirted the question when I asked about this, but led me to beleive it may be possible for STBX to get overnights before one year of age with the LO I'm currently carrying.
I'm freaking out this morning, because I've been reading articles and such on separation anxiety and other pyscological damage early overnights can cause on young children.
I had printed the one off and gave it to STBX. He reacted much as I thought he would.
Telling me how F*ed up I am and what a load of BS, and how out of my mind and selfish I am to think he won't be getting overnights with his baby. I told him it was in the best interest of the baby, and I was in no way trying to keep him from his baby. DD has overnights with him now, but I'm just asking that overnights do not start until at least one year of age.
He went on again about how selfish I am and that any judge will just tell me, "you better get to pumping".
It's not even the pumping part/supply worry that has me... I'm scared of the possible pyscological damage of seperating a newborn from their Mama and what kind of security and attachment issues that is going to cause!!
Not to mention how I went through PPD/separation anxiety with DD when I had to go back to work... I am never going to make it through a whole day/night away from a newborn.
I'm seriously freaking out right now.
STBX told me I should have thought of this before I left him and it proves how selfish I am and how I always want my way. Basically I made my bed and now I have to sleep in it...