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#1 of 11 Old 06-21-2010, 03:31 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Would you give them his current phone number or tell him they called? It's not harassing - this happened quite a few months back and then again this past week. They would call my cell repeatedly, not leave a vmail. Eventually I answer the phone, they ask for him. I say this isn't his number. They just say it's a personal matter, and won't give me any information, and I decline to give his phone number.

When I google the number, it's the collections arm of a bank that I know he has a credit card from. We used to have a joint checking account at this bank (which is presumably why they have my number associated with him), I am not on any of his credit cards, so that's not an issue.

He's terrible with money and is routinely a bit late w/child support and occasionally bounces checks. He spent all kinds of my money. I'm only surprised that I don't get more calls.

WWYD? I have no warm feelings toward my X. He's not a nice guy. We don't fight or anything - our relationship is strictly about the kids.
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I would mention it to him once, and then not take any more of the calls. I wouldn't provide them his phone number. That's his job.
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I'd give them his number so they would stop harrassing me.
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I would give his number and then not answer the calls again. And, calling repeatedly and not leaving a vmail is harassing.

Why do they have your number and not his anyway? Is he using your number so that he doesn't get these calls?
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I would give his number and then not answer the calls again. And, calling repeatedly and not leaving a vmail is harassing.

Why do they have your number and not his anyway? Is he using your number so that he doesn't get these calls?
I'm guessing they have his # too, but he's not answering. I'm sure they have my number associated with him b/c I was the main member of this bank (USAA), and he became a member b/c we got married. Although I've made absolutely sure that there is nothing joint anymore (I never had a joint credit card w/him anyway, b/c I knew he was lousy w/money), I'm guessing they follow any lead to try & find him.
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I'm guessing they have his # too, but he's not answering. I'm sure they have my number associated with him b/c I was the main member of this bank (USAA), and he became a member b/c we got married. Although I've made absolutely sure that there is nothing joint anymore (I never had a joint credit card w/him anyway, b/c I knew he was lousy w/money), I'm guessing they follow any lead to try & find him.
Then I would give them his number, and ask that they not contact you any more since he can't be reached at your number. Then report it as harassment if they continue to call you and not leave messages.
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I agree with PP about giving them his #, and telling them not to call you anymore since he can't be reached at your #. If they keep calling you, I would definitely keep records and report them if they harass you about it.

Let him deal with their calls. It isn't your responsibility. And you certainly don't need to be bothered or stressed with recurring phone calls for collections when you have nothing to do with the account.

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I agree that it's his responsibility to deal with them -- or not, his choice --but I think that you don't necessarily have to give them his number to make them stop calling. I think that if you were to reiterate what you've said -- this isn't his number -- and request that they stop contacting you, they're obligated to cut it out. Fair Debt Collections Practices Act, I think? Your request may have to be in writing, not sure about the ins and outs.
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They are going to keep calling you until they get a hold of him, especially if they know you that have his number. They will use up your minutes. BTW, just how did they get your cell phone number? Chances are, your ex put it on the application.

I would give them his phone number and ask for their mailing address. And then send them a cease and desist letter making it clear that your ex cannot be reached at this number, period. And any further calls will be considered a violation of the Fair Debt Collections Practices Act.
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This happened to me. After weeks of missed calls, I finally got them on the phone, and gave them every bit of information I had on him. It was the same situation that you're in - bank calling, they had my information because he put my number on a loan application.

I never heard from them again. Not the most mature thing to do, but it worked!

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I'd give them his number so they would stop harrassing me.
My ex-husband to this day gets collection calls on my cell phone as I have had the same number for almost 10 years. I used to give his number. Now I just tell the callers that they have the wrong number and to take my phone number out of their system. If he doesn't care about his bills, neither do I and it is not my job to play secretary and forward his information. Just my opinion.

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