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Thank you so much for your post.
No I do not have employment. So in checking around a CFP told me about this new process and I was wondering about it.
I feel like stbx is driving this whole process since last fall (I was getting signs then). I was a mess then but are now thinking more logically. I could possibly see him not wanting to use attorneys but wonder if that is in my best interest as I am totally at a lost. I interviewed a few attorneys and I could see how fees could add up.
We have a child, assets etc. I think stbx wants to just offer me a monthly amount, he has been very secretive, removing his belongings etc, moved gave me no address yet, comes back to get more of his stuff. Due to the business and school I have not been able to get involved in the process and then he made the final big D announcement recently. So I don't think it will be contested, but I am concerned that I may not get what is "due"...so want to consider what is the best route to ensure that. (18years married).
...you need a lawyer of your very own...
...You need someone that can navigate the system and advocate for you.
My previous advice was based on more of the usual situation where there's not much left over to divide. You know better what's on the table and your comfort level. You need to look at the value of your property, retirement funds, pensions, investments, ownership in a business. That makes things much more complicated than your average supervised law student should probably be working on!!! Good luck!!
In an uncontested divorce, was it easy to follow the state Law in your area without attorney assistance each step of the way? Did you find attorney assistance helpful, or now looking back could you have done it yourselves, or with "guided assistance" such as in the Fairway process? Just thinking about how I shall proceed. Right now leaning toward seeing a CFP and then also hiring an attorney (not sure I need to do both).
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