You'll need to be near someone supportive and positive while getting ready to have your babe. If this is your parents and they are out of state, it doesn't really matter. You go to family when the relationship fails. Nobody would argue that. Demonstrating through certified mail or other documentable communication will ensure you have offered the open door at your folks' house and this has been rejected. If your partner is suffering from strange and unknown illnesses, sleeping problems, and mental illnesses, he would probably need a psychological evaluation if he sought custody of the new babe. He may be a great daddy but you will need some more evidence of that before testing it out. Leaving his name off the bc is a safe call. He can always be added on if he follows through with being a dad, but if he bails on the kid, you've got a clean b.c. for the future. If his name is on there and THEN he bails, you've got a battle on your hand for future alternate parentage. Just a thought. I might be a bit jaded. Most states do not require a father's name on the b.c. for welfare. It's asked for but if you simply "don't know", there's nothing you could do. SMC's who need assistance usually get it, IME.