as far as a lawyer goes, my sis got in a petty legal bind that turned into all out chaos and a friend of hers recommended contacting lawyers in the area and asking for help. Apparently, and I dont know if this is just the state she lives in which is different from mine, but lawyers are required (?) pro bono hrs each year. She actually got someone to represent her for free and her case was dropped (a good thing). I would look into that. Make some calls. I know girls who feel that things like this are wrong, but that they dont want to piss off their babies father. My good friend had her ds father in the delivery room when he was born tho they were no longer together and he brought and ate a stinky plate of enchiladas from his new girlfriends mom! righta after the baby was born. Even tho my friend was gagging at the smell. Loser. I guess that was a bold example of how men feel the need to be included, but dont value the situations the way women do, or women want them too. Im not mentioning this just to keep this douche away from your birth.
Push past any guilt you may still be harboring about the situation even if you are too uncomfortable to admit it now, and keep him away from you and your kids. I can GUARANTEE it you wont regret it. And I would not invite him over for dinner. I know when living this situation its easy to hear what you should do, but so much harder to do it sometimes, but seriously, you let him back in and where do you draw the line? What happens if hes over for dinner and baby needs to eat? It makes me sick to think of someone getting off on watching something that is so vulnerable and vital.
And really, he lives with his mother but shes gonna drop him immediately if his name isnt on a birth certificate? Sure he didnt just make this up to make you feel bad? Did he promise you some of the inheritance if you make the baby legally his as well? If so, just more manipulation......
And there is a HUGE line between your body and a "fathers" rights. HUGE. You call the shots.
wife to dh the love of my life, and mommy to ds 3/10 . I get to spend everyday with my hero and my miracle.