Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: surrounded by testosterone
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Been there! Sorry you feel so rotten.
There's absolutely no reason taking your child apple-picking - just the two of you - can't be just as sugary a Hallmark moment. Bring your camera and ask someone to take a picture of you guys together.
The intensity you and your son will share, because it's just the two of you, is special in its own right. I'm not saying it's preferable to being part of a traditional, nuclear family...but it's not necessarily worse, either. And it's better than being part of a nuclear family in which the father doesn't really want to be there and the adults are miserable and fighting!
Try to look at it differently: It's lonely as hell to look at ads of idyllic couples with children and to be part of a couple with a child, but to know that your relationship isn't - and never again will be - as happy as those ads. But now, as a single woman with everything ahead of you, those ads may represent the future that's waiting for you, down the road. There's no miserable relationship to stand in your way, when the right man comes along.
But remember to focus on figuring out how to be satisfied with yourself, and the life you have now, and building your relationship with your son. The right man is less likely to come along when you're needy and searching desperately for him. Figure out what you need to do, to enjoy being on your own. The result - you being happy, satisfied and confident within yourself - will produce the most attractive you.
One woman in a house full of men: my soul mate:
... twin sons:
(HS seniors) ... step-son:
(a sophomore) ... our little man:
(a first grader) ... and there is another female in the house, after all