Originally Posted by Gremco
I have not dated, or had "casual sexual encounters" nor would I recommend them. I feel like I need the time to stand on my own feet and get comfortable with myself again. Getting involved in a dating or sexual relationship would hamper that
I totally agree. After I left my ex I totally focused on my ds and myself. I wanted nothing to do with any other adult male in that context. I did, however, get a BOB
A couple years later a friend of mine pestered me for quite awhile about this guy she knew and she wanted to give me his number. I finally agreed, though it took me awhile to call him
We talked on the phone and online for over a year before we met in person. I was very clear with him that I was a mom and my ds came first. Always. I'm honestly surprised I didn't scare him off because when we first started talking was during a period where my son was having a really (really) rough time. DP would call me and all he would hear in the background was screams and crashes and a "uhhhh.... gotta go!"
DS was diagnosed with autism during the time that dp and I were still just talking. We actually met in person over a year after we started talking. When we met we hit it off right away and we both knew we were right for each other. We've now known each for about 5 years (living together for 3, engaged for 1 1/2, getting married in less than 3 months).
I have no doubt that if we hadn't gotten to know each other for over a year before we started dating, things would have been way different. I was in such a different place a year before we actually met in person. I had different priorities. He was in a different place and had different priorities.
But the stars lined up right and here we are