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Old 11-07-2010, 10:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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During ex's 2 minute and 36 second phone call today () he only seemed interested in finding something, anything, that could be used against me in court. Wonderful way to treat ds. He said hi to ds, ds said hi to him. Ex told ds to tell him 1 thing that he did this weekend. DS told him "on saturday night I got to sleep in my mom and dad's bed!". Ex's response? "Why would you do that? You're a big boy. You shouldn't be sleeping with your mom anymore". Seriously? DS ignored that comment (thankfully) so ex said "I'm going to go now. Have a good week" and hung up

And now I'm sure I'll have to explain to a Judge why ds was sleeping in my bed (on Fri and Sat nights ds gets to fall asleep in our bed as a special treat. We move him back to his bed after he's asleep).

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During ex's 2 minute and 36 second phone call today () he only seemed interested in finding something, anything, that could be used against me in court. Wonderful way to treat ds. He said hi to ds, ds said hi to him. Ex told ds to tell him 1 thing that he did this weekend. DS told him "on saturday night I got to sleep in my mom and dad's bed!". Ex's response? "Why would you do that? You're a big boy. You shouldn't be sleeping with your mom anymore". Seriously? DS ignored that comment (thankfully) so ex said "I'm going to go now. Have a good week" and hung up

And now I'm sure I'll have to explain to a Judge why ds was sleeping in my bed (on Fri and Sat nights ds gets to fall asleep in our bed as a special treat. We move him back to his bed after he's asleep).
What a UAV. Seriously.

Aside from lending the dna this man has in no way fathered Owen and he doesn't get to tell him when he's being a "big boy" or not. Thank god I don't have his phone number, he'd be getting such an earful.

I'm PO'd for you.
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"Well Judge, Owen was really upset for a week or so after our last visit to Michigan. Biodad had made a big deal about how they would spend time together, on the phone, then never showed up for his visitation. I assure you that he doesn't normally sleep with us, but when an autistic child is so consistently and blatantly rejected by a parent..."

no no! take the high road! lol stick with the truth. "Well Judge, Owen is raised in a loving home where his emotional needs are met. I realize that's incredibly rare in America, but is it really something I need to defend?"

Honestly, even in main stream circles...a 7r old sleeping w mom n dad once in a while? Who cares? What a <UAV>!

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"Well Judge, Owen was really upset for a week or so after our last visit to Michigan. Biodad had made a big deal about how they would spend time together, on the phone, then never showed up for his visitation. I assure you that he doesn't normally sleep with us, but when an autistic child is so consistently and blatantly rejected by a parent..."

no no! take the high road! lol stick with the truth. "Well Judge, Owen is raised in a loving home where his emotional needs are met. I realize that's incredibly rare in America, but is it really something I need to defend?"

Honestly, even in main stream circles...a 7r old sleeping w mom n dad once in a while? Who cares? What a <UAV>!
I like both of your answers. And really the first one isn't that far from true.
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Grrr........I'm getting to the point where I get mad before I even READ your posts!

LOL.

Anyway, I think you will end up in court, and I think the judge is probably going to be internally laughing at your ex. My little brother slept with my parents until he was about 7 or 8 (maybe longer). He would start in his own bed, and then move in with my parents No big deal. Society is much more open to older kids crawling in bed with their parents than younger kids for whatever reason.
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"Well Judge, Owen was really upset for a week or so after our last visit to Michigan. Biodad had made a big deal about how they would spend time together, on the phone, then never showed up for his visitation. I assure you that he doesn't normally sleep with us, but when an autistic child is so consistently and blatantly rejected by a parent..."

no no! take the high road! lol stick with the truth. "Well Judge, Owen is raised in a loving home where his emotional needs are met. I realize that's incredibly rare in America, but is it really something I need to defend?"

Honestly, even in main stream circles...a 7r old sleeping w mom n dad once in a while? Who cares? What a <UAV>!
That's hilarious!

I think the reason ex was so upset about it is because Owen said he slept in his mom and dad's bed. Hence calling dp "dad". Not ex. Because he never calls ex "dad". When Owen said that the whole tone of ex's voice changed dramatically. Somebody got his pride hurt and apparently feels the need to fight back

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Thank god I don't have his phone number, he'd be getting such an earful.
During moments such as these, I'm often tempted to leak his phone number out. Imagine the number of nasty phone calls or texts that would be coming his way

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Grrr........I'm getting to the point where I get mad before I even READ your posts!
LOL... you and me both. Just a few more months before the increase in child support hits and, hopefully, he stops playing this game and does what's in ds's best interest (sign over his rights so ds can get on with his life).

And I have to say, that even if it does go back to court I have a very valid reason for letting ds sleep in my bed part of the night Saturday- ds's breathing is acting up (he has breathing issues related to allergies and RAD). He's spent most of the weekend coughing and wheezing. It was imperative that I keep an eye on him during the night in case he needed to use his inhaler. No Judge in the world would argue that.

And on a side note that I found funny.... a couple weeks ago I was talking to ds's teacher. She asked straight out what the situation is with ds's dad (I had told her ds had to miss a day of school because he had to go to michigan for that). I explained to her the whole situation and it was like a lightbulb went off in her head. She explained that at the beginning of the school year Owen always talked about "mom and Jason" (and she knew Jason was my partner). Then randomly ds threw in a statement about his "dad". His teacher asked "where does your dad live" and Owen's response was "in my house, of course". So his teacher had a vision of ds, dp, I and ex all living together. LOL! I had to clarify that ds calls dp "dad" as well as "Jason".

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And on a side note that I found funny.... a couple weeks ago I was talking to ds's teacher. She asked straight out what the situation is with ds's dad (I had told her ds had to miss a day of school because he had to go to michigan for that). I explained to her the whole situation and it was like a lightbulb went off in her head. She explained that at the beginning of the school year Owen always talked about "mom and Jason" (and she knew Jason was my partner). Then randomly ds threw in a statement about his "dad". His teacher asked "where does your dad live" and Owen's response was "in my house, of course". So his teacher had a vision of ds, dp, I and ex all living together. LOL! I had to clarify that ds calls dp "dad" as well as "Jason".
LOL!!!!! That is hilarious! I'm glad you could clarify what was going on for her!
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Well I can't imagine his feelings being hurt when he forgot to include O in the number of children he had while he was ON THE PHONE WITH O.... was that less than a month ago.  What a piece of art work.


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