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#31 of 57 Old 12-07-2010, 11:00 AM - Thread Starter
 
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He scheduled the hearing for Thursday a.m. He left my lawyer a message at 8 p.m. saying this so she is going to add that as another count of contempt towards our sanctions hearings in January. Because he left it so late at night it technically isn't proper notice. But she still has to show for the hearing regardless because she said not going could lead to worse things. So now we have 6 counts against him.

 

I originally didn't say a word to the kids because I knew it would seriously upset them and because I knew I was going to fight it every step of the way and so I wouldn't have a definitive answer for them until the end. But then ex calls them and tells them he gets them for all of winter time and didn't I tell them this great news??!! Then they got really upset and were questioning me. I told them that as of now they were supposed to visit with their dad at xmas time but I wasn't completely sure of what was happeneing and that I would let them know asap. I didn't bring anything else up. Then their dad told them they were going to miss a bunch of school and be with him and they got way more upset. But then I won the appeal and told the kids everything was ok and they wouldn't miss any school and they would be home for xmas. But now this. I haven't told them anything but this isn't good. I am very angry ex told them anything and the emotional upheaval that I have to deal with is insane. It isn't fair at all to them. Or me. Geez.

 

I'll let you all know how it goes Thursday.

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OMG.  Just when it can't get any worse, it does.

 

Good luck Thursday, I hope things are OK.  You said that the judge who suspended the hearing based on the extenuating circumstances had said he would speak to the crazy judge?  I'm hoping he did, and let him know that the situation was NOT good for him, and that he was seriously abusing his power.

 

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Crazy judge has a peer to answer to now, so maybe he'll be reasonable.  How much energy does he really want to waste on ths during hs last week as a judge...really?

 

l hope your lawyer points out the legality of sending the kids to a halfway house for visitation and the legal issues surroundng his non-compliance wth batterer counseling.


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Any news? Silly question cause I know you will post as soon as you can. Thinking of you!

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It got pushed to Thursday and yes I will let you all know ASAP.

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Good luck again, Avani. stillheart.gif

 

I hope the judge sees through your X and his ridiculous behavior and requests.  I agree with smeep. Can it be requested or made known to the court in your case? I would love to have my X drug tested, because he hangs out with the party types, and I suspected him of using something in the past.


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I have good hopes for you, Avani! 

 

He is indeed so ridiculous - he put his request over the top by demanding the whole shebang, with you transporting, etc.  He's not even trying to look reasonable.  Sending you positive thoughts!

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you know the halfway house is not the issue. its everything that's happening there THAT is the issue.

 

please note many mamas recovering are living in halfway houses so intrinsincally they are not bad. children in shelters and halfway homes/houses are not a reason to take the children away.

 

in avani's case its different.

 

avani i really hope and pray the cycle of possible bribing, evil days are over and finally truth can make her appearance in all her glory. just wish it didnt have to be right before finals for crying out loud.


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Sending good thoughts for tomorrow...
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Thanks, I just now finished confering with my lawyer and getting things faxed to her. It sucks dragging my kids out into the dark, rainy weather and one of them has a fever just so I can get stuff faxed for my ex's lame "emergency" hearings. One of the declarations is my poor lawyer's voice mail's from my ex transcribed. Geez, I so do not miss his voice or his harrassing messages in his "I am so much better than everyone" tone. This is one of the messages from her voicemail

 

Hi Ms. *Lawyer*, I will be appearing ex parte on Tuesday morning at 8:30. I need to go before the judge and explain what it is you’ve done behind his back with another judge as well as request the order to have *Avani* drive the children down for Christmas break as he intended before you went to another judge while he was off. I will be appearing at 8:30 and it is 10:30 right now on Sunday night so I have given you more than twenty-four hour notice. Good-bye."  

 

ugh. then he leaves her two more messages that he is disregarding the fact that she can't appear for me due to her having two other hearings on Tuesday morning and he will still be showing that morning. So my lawyer calls the courthouse that morning (tuesday 9 a.m.), between her two other hearings at a totally different courthouse, and asked to speak to the judge about notifying my ex that she couldn't appear and to please reschedule...my ex never showed for the hearing. Then she gets a voicemail from my ex(tuesday 9:20 a.m.) that he is unable to appear on Tuesday a.m. and he will be appearing on Thursday a.m. and he expects her to clear her schedule because it is of the upmost importance that Judge *crazy* hear what we have done.

 

Good news is we have yet another sanction to add to the January case of him ordering ex partes and not appearing (we are at 6 counts).

 

I should know the results around 10 am California time.

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INSANE!

 

Jeebus!  Still praying for a good outcome in the morning. :goodvibes

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I'm praying for you. You are a wonder. IDK how you do all you do and still manage to find it in you to fight the good fight over and over and over again. Good luck today. You will be in my thoughts.

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Sending prayers, and positive thoughts out to you today. My gut feeling is that he is not going to show. Sure hope so.

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Ugh. Thinking of you today!


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My lawyer just texted me he is there and they are heading in now. Crazy judge is there too. My lawyer and I will prevail

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Will she be able to present the evidence about the arrest at his house?

 

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Thinking of you.  I'll check back later.

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I'm praying for good results! Is there any way to make this stop, or to even make him to pay for the lawyer? Can you request another judge? Are they even taking the mental health of you and the kids into consideration?

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Hoping everything goes well for you today!

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Thinking of you Avani.

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