So I have a 3 month old DD. We(her and I) just got back from visiting my family out of state, and my boyfriend got upset (I'm not even sure why anymore) and told me to move out. He has also told me to be ready for a court battle for custody which probably upset me more than him breaking up with me. I am assuming I can't go home with her without it being abandonment, but does anyone have experience/advice for me since we aren't married? I am living in Texas now.
We are still in the same apartment now, and going to see what we can do (stay together), but I don't have a lot of faith that will happen. :/
Also I am still an out of state resident. Does that make a difference for me getting custody/being able to move her closer to my family?
Thanks for listening, I feel so lost right now, and I am about to take boards and my orals for my masters.
I'm not familiar with Texas but one of my first questions is he named on the birth certificate? If not he will likely have to go to court and prove paternity before he could apply for custody/visitation. I would also keep records to things like who does the parenting (i.e., me 70%, him 30%) because in some states that would have some weight on the custodial parent and the time split.
Many judges won't see giving an infant huge amounts of time to the father but if that is the case they will expect a visitation schedule that increases with age.
The attorney consultation was exactly what I was going to suggest because the courts are all so different. Contact them and get to know your basic rights and what you should be doing now. I know in my situation whoever had more parenting time could have come into play.
Find another babysitter for that interview, even if you have to grab a teenager or granny from the neighborhood to bring her along and walk the baby in the stroller outside the building. Seriously, I would have a hard time trusting that a guy who threatens you like this wouldn't just pick up and leave with her. Do not leave her with him. Period.
He wants you to skip the interview so that you remain beholden to him and don't have the means to get your own place and leave.