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#1 of 9 Old 10-28-2011, 03:26 PM - Thread Starter
 
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#2 of 9 Old 10-30-2011, 08:27 AM
 
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i hear ya, mama. I have four kids (three live with me full-time) and I still want another. Of course, I dont even have a signifigant other, and I will be 30 in 3 months. I am graduating nursing school soon and will be looking for a job. I will also be working on getting my Bachelor's in Nursing so I have more opportunity for employment, but that will take a few years. I never have a chance to get out without my little guys, so I dont know how I'd ever be able to date. :(

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I thinks it's totally understandable.  And yes, as we get older things don't go back into place, we don't move as fast as we used to, the body groans and cracks and strains at things otherwise were easier when younger.  So definitly understandable to think about the age factor with everything.

If you and SI want one, go for it.  There are always going to be some factor that will stand in the way and make it not a good time.  If everyone waited for that perfect time we probably would barely have any kids int he world.  Live in the moment and the rest will fall into place, one way or another.

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Aime, after having 4 kids, with 3 living full-time with you, baby fever can still take place?    I would feel so exhausted....my 1 wears me out.  It I imagine it must be the kind of thing where it's your "normal" and that's just how you operate.  It often happens that we foresee ourselves in impossible situations, just to find them become quotidian as weeks or months go by.    How old is your youngest?

 

Muprh, thanks for the kind words. I understand what you mean by perfect timing.  I see your youngest is 3 months younger than my little one.  Isn't that such a sweet age?  <3

 

 

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Oh mama, I feel the baby fever big time.  Its incredibly fierce.  I am seeing someone new and its been a while since I've been with anyone and I surprisingly feel myself just wanting a newborn.  I mean its like I can feel my womb ache.  Haha.  I don't even know what to do about it, because sincerly, honestly a baby right now would be dear trouble.   Glad to hear others are in the same. 

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This is the first time I'm admitting this outside of my very close small circle of friends... but recently I was hit with baby fever... it's not overwhelming like it was before I had DD, but it's a thought in the back of my mind that maybe I'm meant to have one more. The catch is, my tubes are tied, and I don't have a SO. lol  I've really been regretting getting the tubal recently. I'm 30... I feel like I have at least 5-6 years to work with comfortably, for me to have one more. I researched a tubal reversal, just so I know some options... I'm not worried about it. I figure something will work out if it's meant to. If I'm meant to have one more, I will, in some fashion, wether I get a reversal and that comes to be, or I adopt, or whatever... But yeah, I figured I'd be solidly done after 2.

 

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I go back and forth on this a lot. We'd been planning for #3 when my marriage imploded 5 yrs ago and the loss of the possibility of another child was nearly as devastating as the loss of my marriage. I'm now in a new relationship and it's brought up the baby lust something fierce. DBF isn't super gung-ho about needing kids of his own but he would like them if he's in a very solid long-term relationship (he & his ex had planned for kids at some point but the marriage ended first) so it's possible we'll be at that solid place in a couple of years but it's super hard for me to wait that long. My kids are now 11 & 7 and I am 40. I'd planned to have #3 when I was about 37 and to be done. Now I'm looking at the possibility that I'll be starting all over again if it does happen. I have lots of friends who've had babies into their 40's so I'm not very concerned about that, it's more the starting over part on top of the fear that I'll end up raising another child on my own. I'm not quite as freaked out about it all since DBF & I talked about it this weekend but it's still all frustrating that none of this baby stuff worked out anything like what I wanted.



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I am 37.  Let me tell you, that clock is clicking pretty loudly.  I would love to have another one yet.  Not even so much for the sake of a baby but I want a husband and a child we share and a child I do not have to send away at all the best moments of life (I hate joint custody).   I want that perfect family I have always dreamed of.  not to mention I think my dds would be so awesoe with a little brother or sister.  i would love to expand the love we share.  There are so many reasons I want a baby.   that and I have always wanted a big full family.  I have a friend who is 40+ and expecting a baby and a few of my highschool friends just had babies.  So there is hope.  And I am in a great relationship but am too scared to think about it maybe leading to marriage (scared to get my hopes up, not scared about marriage).  


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