I am still married, but I have made the decision to leave my husband. I have spent agonizing months trying to find a place to move to, but I live in a rural area that is very low on rental houses, and I don't make very much money. After spending nine months (and the last three months I have been working VERY hard) to try to find a place around here, I have given up. I found ONE house in all that time, but it was too expensive for my budget. (staying put is not an option, my mother in law owns our house)
So I have decided to go to college (for the first time.) I have made my plans, turned in my applications, and I am still waiting to hear back. I have not told my husband any of these plans. The college is 1 hour away (in the same state, and I plan to live in family housing. I have two children, ages 4 and 6.
Can I expect a problem, legally, from moving an hour car ride away, and having the kids switch schools? I've been working up plans and I am more than willing to meet him halfway to change the kids from my custody to his. I'm just afraid he can put up a fuss and stop me from leaving with the kids if I am going such a distance away.
(No, I have not spoken to a lawyer yet. I'm still keeping everything under wraps until I hear back from the college, nail down finacial aid, and get into family housing....a lot of what ifs going on here.)
I know that, at least in California, if there is no court order, you can go wherever you want. An hour isn't far. When I first left my husband, I moved the kids and I to my friends' mountain property and we were about 2 hours from where my husband moved to. He now lives about an hour away from where I live now.
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I would meet with an atty. Since you are the one 'leaving' and you are planning on living in 'family housing' your STBX could be viewed as the one having a more stable household.
Most atty's give a free consult.
ETA: I just realized this is almost 4 months old... any updates?
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I moved an hour away here in Florida is a 50 mile limit to move without the other parent concentrate or court approved.
Check out http://forum.freeadvice.com/ they are very good answering and you have to enter your stateu
Oh thank you all! The update is that my husband is okay with me and the kids moving away. We have decided to seperate for now, and re-evaluate later. By that time, the kids will be settled in their new school and in our new house, so whatever happens later, the initial move will have happened with his approval and permission. So I think I'm good to go!