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Old 02-11-2012, 05:52 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I feel so stuck in life. I desperately just want to be a SAHM, but since I have no partner, that dream is impossible. 

 

I have a beautiful 7 month old girl, and I love her with every fiber of my being. I just don't know what to do with the rest of our lives. I have no supportive family. We're...stuck in the middle of nowhere. There are no likeminded parents (or people in general) in our community. I'm finishing a degree in something I don't want to do, and I am becoming increasingly restless. 

 

I often dream about some sort of co-op living situation in which I could do childcare/homeschooling and be able to stay with my daughter. This is probably wishful thinking, as I'm not sure a place like that even exists. I'm taking online classes and living off my student loans right now so at least I can stay home until the fall. 

 

I always have plans for everything, so feeling like I'm traveling with no destination is really wearing on me. I don't have a group of supportive people in my life to brainstorm with. The advice I get is to bite the bullet, start a career I hate, and become a working mom like every other single mom. Of course, this is the track I'm on. I just want to know if there are any alternatives. Ideally, I want to homeschool my daughter, which won't be possible if I have to work full time. I also feel like these tender formative years are so important, and I need to be there for them.

 

So, mamas, is there anything I can do? I'm at a loss and having trouble being optimistic about the future. :(

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Old 02-14-2012, 11:48 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Wow so major changes since I wrote this. As of this morning, I'm pregnant and engaged! Sheesh! Life finds a way.


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So in three days you found out you were pregnant and got engaged, even though you didn't have a partner three days ago?


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Wow, what a turn around! smile.gif Congrats on your engagement and pregnancy! I'd love to the the story!

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It's a long story, I guess. We've been on and off for years. I just found out I'm pregnant this morning, and I went straight to his house. He proposed when I told him. It's complicated, but we've known each other since high school and I'd always thought I'd end up with him.

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So in three days you found out you were pregnant and got engaged, even though you didn't have a partner three days ago?



 


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Well congratulations on the new baby and the engagement!


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