How to support a soon to be single mom? - Mothering Forums

 
Thread Tools
#1 of 2 Old 03-14-2012, 03:38 AM - Thread Starter
 
AnkaJones's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: USA
Posts: 310
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)

My sister in law's husband was just diagnosed with terminal cancer (life expectancy < 3 months).  While we're all hoping and praying for a miracle, she will most likely be a single mom of a wonderful 7 year old daughter within the year.  I want to support her in any way possible without being intrusive.  Do any of you have any ideas?

 

Anka


wife to DH, mom to 7/4/2011 and 11/6/13.

AnkaJones is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 2 Old 03-15-2012, 03:05 PM
 
sren's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: a woodsy place
Posts: 11
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)

Oh, wow, that's really tough.  She is fortunate to have such a caring family member. 

 

I know that my experience is that many people say, "Let me know what I can do" but that puts an additional burden on the person needing help to figure out what and how to ask.  It is much more helpful to hear specifics from people-- figure out what you can do and then make it available to her.  For example, "These are the specific days this month where I am available, and I'd like to take your DD to the park/movies/museum.  Are there any errands we can run while we are out?"

"What appointments (doctor or otherwise) do you have coming up where it would be helpful for me to watch DD?  I'd like to pitch in with household chores while I'm at your place.  Would that be alright?"

 

You will probably need to ask more than once, and she may have a lot of initial offers of support.  They tend to decline after initial diagnosis and then pick up again around a funeral and then decline again pretty rapidly.  Hope this helps, and I'm sorry for the terrible news.


and then when we get to the ocean
we're gonna take a boat to the end of the world

sren is offline  
Reply

Tags
Single Parenting


User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Online Users: 9,307

53 members and 9,254 guests
ailsa JOHN , AlaskAnne , Auntiebobo , belltree , dani2015 , dayloveme , Emaya , EmsMom , farmermomma , frances bakin' , funfunkyfantastic , greenemami , japonica , jul511riv , junipermuse , lilmissgiggles , LiLStar , Maac loce , mama2004 , MamaLeti , MamaMayme , marilyn612 , mckittre , MeepyCat , Milk8shake , MissMuffet , moominmamma , Mylie , MylittleTiger , NaturallyKait , OurGift , pers , pumabearclan , SandiMae , sarafl , Serafina33 , Smokering , sofreshsoclean , Springshowers , Suzie007 , SuzyBelle , swetha123 , Tigerle , TrishWSU , wassernixe , Wild Rose
Most users ever online was 449,755, 06-25-2014 at 12:21 PM.