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A couple weeks 5 7.94%
A couple months 9 14.29%
4-8 months 6 9.52%
9-12 months 7 11.11%
A year 7 11.11%
Two years 5 7.94%
Three to four years 8 12.70%
Five years 4 6.35%
Six to seven years 5 7.94%
Eight to ten years 3 4.76%
Ten plus years 4 6.35%
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#31 of 36 Old 10-12-2012, 10:25 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Yeah, I'm kind of done with this whole dry spell thing. redface.gif

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Five years.  Honestly I was just SO busy and chronically exhausted that I didn't think much about it.  There's absolutely no way there would have been room in my life for someone.  I was in school, working, homeschooling...it was chaotic, and I just needed to focus on myself and my daughter.  I knew that things would get better eventually and would be much more enjoyable when life was calmer. 

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Rockstarmom, so you have started "being intimate" again then? Can you tell me how that happened (going from a five year dry spell to a home run lol) and how it went for you? Had you kissed or made out with anyone in those five years? I am sometimes honestly overwhelmed by the fear that I will never have sex again. Really. And it is painful going so long, physically and emotionally. 

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Does the 2 years we haven't done it count, even though I'm married? ;-o


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Mama Soltera, I am not currently getting it on, but when I had a lover this spring- the first time in 5 years or so- everything went fine.  He didn't even seem to care about my stretch marks ;)
 

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Rockstarmom, so you have started "being intimate" again then? Can you tell me how that happened (going from a five year dry spell to a home run lol) and how it went for you? Had you kissed or made out with anyone in those five years? I am sometimes honestly overwhelmed by the fear that I will never have sex again. Really. And it is painful going so long, physically and emotionally. 


Nope, hadn't even kissed anyone during those 5.5 years.  I think it made me a little too anxious to rush things, and I had a (pretty disastrous) whirlwind relationship.  But I wouldn't really change things...in reality I was much too busy to have had time for intimacy before that point, and it was all a learning experience in the end.  It honestly was pretty anticlimactic when it finally happened--the guy was fine with it, and it wasn't such a huge deal to me anymore.  But I know how hard it can be.  Do you WANT to put yourself out there?  Maybe just have a few no-pressure dates?  It can be really nice to get away even for a few hours every few weeks to have some time to step outside of our role as mom and be the center of someone's attention.  :)

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