It is time to send our annual holiday photo card and I'm stumped about how to handle it. I usually just send a picture of my daughter (now it would be her and the baby) and sign it "Love, the XXX's" with our last name. I am not sure that I want to tell friends and family, who don't know yet about our separation, through the holiday card. But it also feels a bit dishonest to just sign it from the whole family, since it is just me and the girls now. Should I send a proper letter sharing other events from the year? Do I just send the photo card from Me and the Girls? Or maybe just stop sending them all together! I just dread having to tell the story over and over again....
Maybe for the more casual acquaintances you could put something like "Love from all of us" and then for closer friends and family you could add a brief note letting them know of the recent changes. That way the people you'd want to keep informed would find out without you having to explain the situation over and over again, and the more casual friends would find out at some later time? Good luck with this!
Wife to DH (2009) and mother to DS born (1/7/11).
I am having the same dilemma. I think I'm just going to sign it from me and the baby, but scale back on how many I send out this year. The vast majority of the people I send cards to know that we are separated. I had added all of my husband's friends to the card list, but won't send it to them this year as I don't think he's told any of his friends who live out of town. I actually feel better about it than I did last year--I made a beautiful card, with a picture taken the day I found out he was having an affair. By the time I sent it out, the whole thing felt like a fraud and it was really uncomfortable to send out this picture that made us look like a happy family when we were miserable and falling apart.