I really need to know how you started a new relationship if so. Because, as it says about INTJ's and relationships:
"Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations. This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand."
This is very true about me so any of you who have BTDT I would really appreciate hearing about it.
I'm an INFJ, so can't help with personal experience, but you might want to try the INTJ board on PersonalityCafe.com. When I was going through some personality-based issues last year, I found it really helpful to hang out over there with others of my type. It was very insightful and I felt understood in a way I never had before. It's was kinda like how it felt to find a tribe here on MDC when I first started posting.
Robin~ single, work-at-home momma to my Wonderboys
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