Have you got a job? A job keeps your mind busy. I have only been separated 5 months, but we were married 12 years. It took some time, but I think I am getting back to being ok alone. Do you have hobbies. I have my sewing machine out in the living room now and always have a project going. I have found it very therapeutic to cut things up and sew them back together in a different way. People have given me totes of old clouthing, and fabric they didn't know what to do with, and I just cut. With every creation I feel like I am destroying my old life a little bit more and creating a new better life. And creations they are, but pretty cool creations. And with each project I remember how he never let me keep my sewing machine out and my only craft was knitting, because it was easy to hide away and keep a spotless and beautiful house. Now I rarely knit, but I'm very good at it. Years of being trapped in the house of his alone, I checked out book after book on knitting from the libary and learned almost all there is to know on knitting. Now as soon as it gets warmer out, I'd like to find some clubs or craft guilds and get to know others that craft. The more challenging the project the better. Make that brain work and think about other stuff than having a man around.