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#1 of 3 Old 02-15-2013, 01:29 PM - Thread Starter
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Ok, so if you start dating again, and you want to 'take it slow', what EXACTLY does that mean: does it mean trying to limit phone calls, etc  to every few DAYS, going for stretches without contact, does it mean seeing each other once a week and not keeping in touch in between...HOW do you take it slow? Exactly, what do you make yourself do to 'take it slow' if you find it difficult to hold back (by character)?

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For me, it's more about taking the commitment stages slow. Not getting too physical too fast, not "falling in love" before you really know someone, not giving up other parts of my life to a new person. I need to keep in touch a lot to get to know someone, so it's important to me to have contact through phone, email, etc, if we can't hang out.

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I'm doing the same thin with my new friend. Taking it slow to me is what Rubelin was saying. You don't want to loose yourself for emotions can take over. I feel that I want to be who I am and see who that other person is and not let the emotions influence those things. I want to TRUELY see how and why that person is an likes to do. I also want to e true to myself.
I'm in the process of a divorce from a 10 yr relationship. I've done so much for my X that I lost who I was and what I wanted in life. I'm the happiest I've every been and I want to make sure that I stay this way and to me the only way I can is to take things slow... Emotions is a powerful thing that influence decisions in both good and bad, if you can't control or get a handle on them they influence us in a bad way.
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