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I've seen lots of advice in regards to making sure important documents are stored safely when divorcing. I don't think my STBX would do anything wrong with them, but I definitely want to cover my bases.

We own no property, so I think our kids' birth certificates and social security might be all I need. The car is I his name. We have a joint checking and (empty) savings account. We have a credit card issued to us for our joint account through our credit union and a shared Costco membership. Other than that, I believe we're a clean break. What other documents should I secure? Marriage license? Copy of lease? Should I make copies of his ID, social security and birth cert?
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And what should I say if/when he notices the absence of original documents?
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MAke copies of everything you possibly can that is his.  Do it when he is not around, so you can get them back before he knows they are gone.  then store it all out of the apartment in a place he can't access.

 

Tax returns for the past several years.  Ideally dating back to the start of your relationship - when you started to live together and behave like a committed married couple (not when married if that's applicable).   Basically anything and everything, try to get a copy.  Spousal support is really important for you to establish, and you want any documentation that shows what he got, vs. you.  Demonstrate with numbers where you are now financially versus where you could have been if you had simply been working/educating yourself (instead of staying home with the kids).

 

What about his employer pension?  Can you get hold of that and copy it?  You are entitled to half I believe (depending on your local laws)

 

Also, you will want to ensure you have photos of you and the kids doing things together, as well as their artwork, cards, etc.  Anything that you treasure.  But it can also be used to show documentation of your close bond with them.  

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Thanks dot1. I will get on that. Much appreciated.
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I've seen lots of advice in regards to making sure important documents are stored safely when divorcing. I don't think my STBX would do anything wrong with them, but I definitely want to cover my bases.

We own no property, so I think our kids' birth certificates and social security might be all I need. The car is I his name. We have a joint checking and (empty) savings account. We have a credit card issued to us for our joint account through our credit union and a shared Costco membership. Other than that, I believe we're a clean break. What other documents should I secure? Marriage license? Copy of lease? Should I make copies of his ID, social security and birth cert?

Open a checking and savings account in your own name and start splitting up the money. Call Costco and tell them the situation and try to negotiate a second card for him at a discount. 

 

The only reason to make copies of his identifying documents is if you're afraid he'll lose them! I don't think you need his birth certificate to divorce. 

 

The marriage is license is something you'll need to file with the court during the divorce, but if you can't find it, you can ask for another one from the issuing civic body. 


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Depending on his cooperation with documents too. (Some have been known to make you pay lawyer fees to get them). It's peace of mind to have the copies yourself.
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