girlspn - It's ok, its funny, as much as I have super anxiety about AF arriving, as soon as it does, I seem to get over it quickly. Now, considering the layoffs coming at work, I will be skipping any cycles until I get a new job. It will be hard enough being a single mama, but being pregnant and trying to find a job wouldn't be good either (of course companies discriminate, even though they say they don't).
There is a book I am going to get, I think it is good for all families, not just us single mama families. But it talks about how all sorts of families are different, some families live close together, some live far apart, some only have a mom, some only have a dad, some have 2 mamas, or 2 daddies, or just aunts or grandparents. It is nice and simple and helps kids know that every family is different, but that they all love each other. It might be a good way to introduce things to your daughter
One idea I read about, and I like and may use myself (if I happen to be single) is to explain that most mama's get a papa and then get a baby, but I wanted a baby so bad, that I couldn't wait for a papa. Maybe I will find a really good papa later on. Then they feel very special and wanted, and clearly understand there isn't a papa yet and why.
People are so confused by what you can do or not do anymore medically, that I just refer to what I am doing as "fertility treatments." You can tell only a few people understand what it means, most people are immediately lost and skip to, how long have you been trying? It is like they are instantly on the hoping it works bandwagon. If you have to bring it up w your exhusband, you could even use that avenue. If he wants to know the details, and you feel comfortable, you could be super technical so that his mind spins hahah. But I think fertility treatments tends to end the conversation (unless they are interested or really do care, in a positive sense).
Well, I had an almost date earlier in the week. On my dating profile, I very very clearly mention that I am working to be a single mother either by fostering, adopting or having my own. It is front and center, no missing it. Well, almost date guy and I had great email exchanges, i mean really great. Then we are making plans to meet up and im looking through all his questions (theres a few hundred, so I hadn't gotten to them all yet), and suddenly in spots where it asks if you are ok if your partner has kids from another relationship, or would you feel comfortable being a step parent, anything related to kids, he answers, I do not have and do not want any kids. I do not want a relationship with anyone that has kids. So i then ask him about that, considering my statement is front and center, and he says, oh yea, I was waiting to talk about that. Puh-leeze.. jerk. He explained that he was so excited talking with me that he didnt want it to end. I am hardly his freaking entertainment.
The other weird thing is, the same day I got his email, I got an email from another guy who clearly said he was fascinated by my wanting a family, and hes sort of in the same spot now too. He asked me lots of questions and I just put it all out there, what made me want to try and why I wanted a kid of my own and how I really felt ready to just have my family. He was just so sweet and interested. Well we met up for lunch today and ended up talking for almost 4 hours (my voice went out and he said his butt fell asleep, so we had to finally get up to leave)
We had a good time. It is really hard for me to gauge whether someone is really interested or not. And I think i have been doing so many first dates lately, that I can't even tell how I feel myself. But the conversation was super interesting and I had a good time. Who knows!! If we have a second date, cool, and if we don't, I am going to hang the dating hat up for a bit. I am tired and overwhelmed with everything (TTC, dating, finding a new job, selling my old house, just too much)!
Can't wait for your baby girl to get here!!! I am so excited and happy for you