Girlspn - the first two were chemical pregnancies, so I was very bummed, but I had no pain, it really was like a late slightly heavier period.
The last one was later, almost 8 weeks, by the time it finally started, and hurt pretty bad. I had to stay home from work because of it. What made it worse was I already knew it was going to happen after my ultrasound at 6.5 weeks, so I had to sit around wondering when it would start. And to make it even worse, my boobs and uterus were still getting bigger, so I had to wait for my body to get the memo, while I was feeling more and more pregnant. I really would rather just get bfns than go through that if it ultimately isn't meant to be.
I'll gauge how I feel as I continue through the process. I'm changing things a bit this time. I'm going to use a different donor each time and Try to get the IUIs done somewhere in the 12-20 hour range. I dunno if it'll make a difference, but we will see!
I also had been thinking that maybe I shouldn't change anything, but then I just feel anxious, like I should try and do SOMETHING different. for my iuis, I'm averaging a 37.5% "success" rate which is insane really. But there's no way to make a good egg a good egg. I think my age is definitely having an impact.
And yes, I do them at home with the midwife. She has been really great and supportive and helped me get over my needle issue too
I have an appointment with the foster care place Tuesday. The last thing I went to was just an orientation. This time I'm going to sit down w one of their intake people and go through my finances, the type of child needs I can handle, ages, etc. This is the very start of the process, so I really don't know what else I'll need to do besides the 30 hour training. I guess I'll find out.
Interesting about ex-hb. He hasn't wanted to maintain contact so I wouldn't worry too much about telling him or not. Do you think you'd want to tell him before he arrives or after? I can see benefits to both. I'd base it on your needs/wants only. His needs and reaction are really inconsequential.
Will he be staying in a hotel when he visits? Are you comfortable with him taking her out on his own? Or would you rather have supervised outings?