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Well DS 1's dad has moved back after a year and a half away to make more money. He got married and she's quite a relief to me. Still the annoyance of not getting things back that you send with your kid have come up.

DS 2's dad and I are trying to get to a good place. I wanted to get out while we can still save the friendship. We've gone out a couple of times after I announced moving on.

That number I gave out has come to fruition. We've been hanging out and texting a lot. The stars all lined up that I was child free and he didn't have to work. And we had a wonderful time. He has two teenagers and doesn't think he wants more. SMC for #3 for me!
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I had my consult today and didn't get any good answers. Apparently everything looks good so I'm now on a prescription for iron because its low (but I'm not anemic like I used to be) and she said I can start thyroid meds if I want to because my TSH is a little high but only sub-clinical cause my T4 is normal so in plain English - its not a total concern but could be lower. Basically, we're going to just try this since my vitamin D should be fine by now and nothing else is sticking out including perimenopause like she was worried about.

 

I'll recheck my thyroid and then decide when I schedule my HSG to see if the problem is my tubes or uterus.

 

Has anyone had one of those? Prescottschels, did you have an HSG? Did I spell you name wrong, lol? Sorry about that.

 

Hope everyone is having a good week so far.

 

I'm happy to hear that everything looks good! With thyroid, if you have hypothyroid symptoms even with norma lab values, I think it's worth looking into it. A little change can go a long way. 

 

As for HSG, I had one a few years ago. It wasn't pleasant but bearable. Having strong painkillers help.


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I got my biopsy results today. The good news is that my abnormally thick endometrium isn't cancerous, but they still don't know why it is the way it is, "but it's fine. you're fine!" she said :eyesroll  They want me to TTC 3-6 MORE months before I go back for the HSG banghead.gif  It's maddening & I honestly don't think I have it in me to go that much longer. My emotional reserves are drained. 

I was gonna call the foster/adopt agency last week but I got a call from the gal saying she was going on vacay, so I'll have to wait til next week to get in touch with her. 
 

 

Glad to know it's good news, although sorry they won't do the HSG... maybe a short break would be good.  Would you foster a child first?


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I'm happy to hear that everything looks good! With thyroid, if you have hypothyroid symptoms even with norma lab values, I think it's worth looking into it. A little change can go a long way. 

 

As for HSG, I had one a few years ago. It wasn't pleasant but bearable. Having strong painkillers help.

 

 

 

Thanks for this comment. I think I get one notification when this thread is updated but not every time so I didn't see this but I did read on it and was prepared with painkillers. I'm planning to get my thyroid tested again soon. Its a little high for trying to get pregnant so it is worth looking into.

 

Did you have your ultrasound yet? I know I asked you that before but it always feels so long between when I last check in here. Plus I'm hoping you have a good one. How are you feeling now? Have you made any progress on the possible move?

 

I had my HSG. It actually wasn't bad at all. I only felt the speculum and had a tiny bit of cramping when I got home. It may be because I took 1200mg of ibuprofen but it didn't touch my normal pain so I don't know. It looks like both my tubes may be blocked but I wont get the final say until I speak with my doctor. The radiologist thinks they are because even with twisting and moving all the dye around, it didn't go anywhere and he couldn't see my tubes. Guess we'll see but it kind of confirms that there is something, probably endometriosis going on in there. So there's the good if you can call it that and the bad.

 

I will think on that some other time though. I have a house to myself since J is with a sitter so I'm going to go do exactly nothing, lol.

 

Hope everyone is having a good Monday so far.

 

 


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It sounds like you're on your way to TTC soon with these tests. Would you have to do IVF if both tubes are blocked?

 

I'm generally nauseated all day and night since I got BFP. I spotted a few weeks ago and had an u/s-- they saw the little bean's heartbeat then. I had another follow-up u/s today, and the little bean's measuring right on track. I'm letting myself get a little excited now. 9w3d today only though. 

 

I've decided to move. Having family support helps a lot, and my daughter is close to all my siblings. She loves them and didn't want to leave, and always asking to return. I found a preschool for her so everything's set. Hoping when I'm there, we'd be able to move a bit to the outskirts where there's more sun and fresh air. I'll also be keeping my job here, so I'll be traveling once every 4-6 weeks for work. Not sure how that will work out, but I'll figure it out during the pregnancy. My dd's gotten more independent lately, which helps because I'm so tired all the time. 

 

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It sounds like you're on your way to TTC soon with these tests. Would you have to do IVF if both tubes are blocked?

 

I'm generally nauseated all day and night since I got BFP. I spotted a few weeks ago and had an u/s-- they saw the little bean's heartbeat then. I had another follow-up u/s today, and the little bean's measuring right on track. I'm letting myself get a little excited now. 9w3d today only though. 

 

I've decided to move. Having family support helps a lot, and my daughter is close to all my siblings. She loves them and didn't want to leave, and always asking to return. I found a preschool for her so everything's set. Hoping when I'm there, we'd be able to move a bit to the outskirts where there's more sun and fresh air. I'll also be keeping my job here, so I'll be traveling once every 4-6 weeks for work. Not sure how that will work out, but I'll figure it out during the pregnancy. My dd's gotten more independent lately, which helps because I'm so tired all the time. 

 

How's everyone else doing??

 

You're almost out of the first trimester! Glad to hear everything is on track.

Sounds like moving will be a benefit plus it wouldn't be too hard to travel for work if you have family nearby. She'll love it.

 

I would have no other option for getting pregnant other than IVF. I'm trying to decide on the pros and cons of surgery to unblock them but I think I may well just leave it alone and move on. There's a chance they wont get cleared or if they do that they wont work as well anyway. IVF seems to be the smarter option. My doctor will let me know though.


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IVF seems to make more sense to me. Higher chances of success, plus possible frozen embryos for future use. 

 

I feel that moving is the best choice for my kid(s), whereas I'm still conflicted about it. But I suppose I feel a bit like that about donor insemination sometimes-- it's not ideal, but feel like it's far preferable to a one-night stand or dating just to find a baby daddy. It's not helping that it's hard taking care of my daughter while nauseous/tired right now. Did you ever feel like that?

 

I'm also recently wondering how much I should tell people when/if people ask. I don't want to hide anything, yet I don't want people/extended family gossiping about my child's origins before he/she even knows! I'm hoping that most people would just assume the baby has the same father as my dd and be tactful enough not to ask. My ex-husband left in February so it's not that far-fetched.. still, I better have some answers ready. 


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<p>IVF seems to make more sense to me. Higher chances of success, plus possible frozen embryos for future use. </p>
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<p>I feel that moving is the best choice for my kid(s), whereas I'm still conflicted about it. But I suppose I feel a bit like that about donor insemination sometimes-- it's not ideal, but feel like it's far preferable to a one-night stand or dating just to find a baby daddy. It's not helping that it's hard taking care of my daughter while nauseous/tired right now. Did you ever feel like that?</p>
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<p>I'm also recently wondering how much I should tell people when/if people ask. I don't want to hide anything, yet I don't want people/extended family gossiping about my child's origins before he/she even knows! I'm hoping that most people would just assume the baby has the same father as my dd and be tactful enough not to ask. My ex-husband left in February so it's not that far-fetched.. still, I better have some answers ready. </p>
I think it's the better choice too. It's just that it is a bit more major and costly and so it's not something I can just do as easily as I did with an IUI. I think more than having blocked tubes, that's the part that makes me upset.

Did I ever feel like it's not ideal but better than the other options? Yeah. Much better than those options. I was never all that hung up on being married either though so its more on par with that option. Either get married or do it myself kind of thing. This just happened first, lol.

I'm more open with it the older he gets mainly because I don't want people to assume the worst. If they say nothing, I wouldn't volunteer it if I were you. Let them wonder!

Have you settled in on the move yet? How's everything with the three of you?

How is everyone else doing?

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I think it's the better choice too. It's just that it is a bit more major and costly and so it's not something I can just do as easily as I did with an IUI. I think more than having blocked tubes, that's the part that makes me upset.

Did I ever feel like it's not ideal but better than the other options? Yeah. Much better than those options. I was never all that hung up on being married either though so its more on par with that option. Either get married or do it myself kind of thing. This just happened first, lol.

I'm more open with it the older he gets mainly because I don't want people to assume the worst. If they say nothing, I wouldn't volunteer it if I were you. Let them wonder!

Have you settled in on the move yet? How's everything with the three of you?

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I can understand that given how invasive and the cost of IVF. I had an egg retrieval done once for an egg donation, and the whole process was not so pleasant. Have you started towards ttc yet?

Yeah, the more I think about it, the more I feel like these details of my life is nobody's business. We're moving on Sunday, and I'm hoping to make it the rest of the week without anyone asking whether or not I'm pregnant. And I've got a bunch of non-answers ready for anyone who asks after the move.

Also preparing to tell my mom about the pregnancy. But I'm leaning towards not telling her about the sperm donor until after the baby is born, if the subject comes up. I don't think she will react well, and I worry she will treat the kid differently. Besides that, my mother and I don't have the kind of relationship where we talk about stuff. Out of my four siblings, two agree with my approach, and two thinks I should tell.

So... I'll meet up with my family near my mother's birthday, and I don't want to talk about it on that day. My birthday is three days later, so thinking to wait until then. At least they can't say mean things, lol.

I'm starting to get excited! My dd likes to point and my belly and ask about the baby. Very cute.

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It's been a while so just checking in. Hope everyone is doing well!
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Thanks for posting esg!!
Life has been nuts! Crazy, but good...
Where are you at w/the IVF option?
girlspn-how was the move and more importantly how is that baby belly??
Hi Farmermomma! What's goin on in your world?
I'm 11 DPO and am wondering if I'm PG... pondering a test tomorrow.... vacillating between ravenously hungry and slightly nauseous, peeing all.the.time....
I have an appointment set to meet in person w/the foster-adopt lady in my home just for an initial walk through-probably to make sure it's not a shack or whatever lol on Aug 6th so I've been madly trying to finish house projects and get more organized turning my spare room that I was just about to turn into my office into a kid bedroom and turning my shed into my office so there has been A LOT of shuffling of stuff from one space to another to storage, etc. Also my dad and a family friend were just here for 4 or 5 days helping me replace the roof on the patio which was rotting and falling through so that's amazing to have complete, and I'm SO exhausted!
I'm going to be caring for 2 kiddos (6 mon & 19 mon) starting in a couple weeks that belong to 2 of my girlfriends who are both teachers at the same school that I used to work at so it's been fun shopping yard sales and craigslist for baby stuff that I'll also be able to use for my own when the time comes so I don't have to let my foster-adopt or possible pregnancy out of the bag to all & sundry just yet... it's nice to have a guise ;-)

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So good to hear from this group again.
@ Prescottchels- caring for 2 babies while trying to adopt and get pregnant. That oughta do it. When it rains it pours. Those babies around should open the flood gates! I've heard so many stories of "couldn't get pregnant till we adopted" I think babies change women. Fingers crossed you're already there.

@girls pin when's the edd? So excited for you.

How goes it esg?

My world is a shifting. My little guy is 14 months now. And although several mommas from my due date club are in new DDCs that spacing is not for me. He's still almost walking. He likes to stand up on the bed and hold his balance for a bit and then pounce on me or brother or kitty.

Biggest news is we're gonna have to move after years of never planning on it. Sigh. House is upside down with what it would cost to fix it compared to what it's worth. I just put a bunch of repairs into an older car and then a month later the transmission went out. I thought that was an expensive lesson, but maybe it was a cheap one so I don't do the same with my house. Hopefully we can build just a couple of blocks from here on some property we have with a creek running through it. Been hanging out at the creek a bit this summer. Put up a sand pile in a natural pit by the creek. Sand play and creek stomping. Makes me want to go tomorrow.

Still seeing same guy! I think I'm surprised. He's been going on trips with his teens. I'm very happy about that. He was asking if I want a daughter one night when I was exhausted and couldn't get LO to sleep. Oh the timing. I was finding it hard to make decisions on moving while this relationship is going well, thinking we may move again in a couple years. We're both happy with the relationship and don't want to rush things either. So I will move on with moving plans for my family.
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