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#1 of 3 Old 10-12-2013, 05:18 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I am a single mother of 3. We do 50/50 custody but my ex still has to pay alot in child support. He is very angry about it. Has even threatened to kill himself if i don't give him full custody. My 8 yo over heard him say he would kill himself. My ex has always been a hard worker and taken care of our children financially but not emotionally or physically. He and his new girlfriend are trying to say I dint have a stable environment for the kids. Only because he owns his own home (which used to be our home) and i am now living in a apartment. I was a stay at home mom and did everything for the kids from doctors appt to school to sports. I did everything. All he did was provide us with money. Which I'm not saying is bad but i needed more than that, that is actually why i left. Now he is trying to do everything to take my kids. His girlfriend has even threatened to do everything in her power to take my kids from me. She was our neighbor and used to be my friend. Now my 8yo son is rebelling against me and has even threatened suicide (i am taking him to counseling for it) my told me that his dad trying to talk my kids into living with him full time and if i don't give him everything he wants all the time he will do it. (because he knows his dad has more money than me and can buy him more stuff) he its just being so mean to me and he has always been my baby, i just don't understand it. I just want to keep him safe and he doesn't understand that. I just don't know what to do anymore.
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Welcome to Mothering! This sounds like a tough situation. :HugWhat has the counselor suggested?

 

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mir44, can you get yourself to a lawyer asap?  This sounds like abuse and parental alienation syndrome, especially since you and your son had a good bond before. Your x could be feeding his gf (and your son) lies about you too.  Good counselling with a counsellor who understand abuse dynamics and how this impacts parenting/children is essential.  A local DV shelter might have access to some of those resources for free.  Document document document....and don't share anything with your x other than the bare minimum for your son.  Try to keep all communication with him and her in writing.  Record your exchanges secretly on a device if you can.  A lawyer might recommend renting a house instead of an apartment just to level the playing field.  

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