Soul-O, I think that we, as women, have a bad tendency to over-analyze EVERYTHING to the point of confusion and frustration. I wouldn't worry about this "idea" of being ready to date or not...do what feels right to you. If you feel like you are moving too fast, then you are...so, back off and get your perspective back. Trust yourself and listen to your instincts.
I know that many people might disagree with me, but I really feel that saying, "I am not ready" or "I am ready" to date is confusing and even more frustrating. I have known so many people that literally lived by these words "I am not ready" or "I don't want a man" that they miss out, something they realize months or years later, on some great relationships...and I don't just mean romantic relationships, I also mean wonderful male friendships.
If someone isn't open to having another person, a male person, in their life...I completely understand, I REALLY, REALLY do! But, I don't know if I would say that they were "not ready"...they are just not interested or looking. Although, I have also known many people that have met the GREATEST men and have the best relationships when they were not interested or looking for that person.
Dating, to me, is just a means to meet new people, of the opposite sex. Dating is such a "loaded" word, there are always these expectations of a potential relationship. I don't see it that way...I know that I cannot have a relationship with man without first being friends.
Maybe I am not articulating this very well, I apologize, but I have been doing some serious thinking about this whole idea of "dating". Maybe this is all just a matter of semantics???
Anyone care to share their thoughts...disagreements...etc?