Hello all, my name is Kristin, I have 4 great kiddos, Ethan is almost 15, Elizabeth is 12, Emilee is 9 and Palin is 4. I was married and divorced from the father of the 2 oldest, we were just too young and we have a very good friendship and he's very much involved in our kids life. I got re married and divorced from the 9 year olds dad and that got VERY messy, one day DCFS came knocking at my door with rape allegations saying my son who was 7 at the time raped our kid, we went through that process and it was unfounded, the child was coached by him and his sick, twisted mother and sister, I lost custody of her because his sister works at the court house. I moved on, had a 4th baby with a man who I found out is TOTALLY psycho and off his rocker, he's been arrested several times between me and and ex of his for domestic battery, I was pregnant the first time he beat me. We're now going through a custody case with our 4 year old, I tried for 2 years to get the OK to put her in pre k because he refuses to let her go because he will lose time with herm we ended up with 50/50 custody when she was a baby, the court wouldn't allow me to put her in pre k. He has yet to pay child support and in the last 3 years he has dated and moved in with 7 different women. Now that we're in a new custody battle he's trying the use rape allegations against my son (he was dating me when the 2nd ex did that so he knows the game), the dumbass registered my daughter for kindergarten today......she's NOT even ready!! He always calls the police on me because of the way our visitation is worded he says my days are his. It's a nasty mess. I have a 4 bedroom home, a stable 3 years relationship, my 2 oldest are high honor students and I have a full time job (he works PRN as an EMT), what are the chances of this loser getting custody? We go to court on the 30th.
You should be careful posting identifying info (kids names and ages- just ages and the first initial) as those are fairly easy to search. Although you may want to be careful posting this much information publically at all, in case your ex stumbles on the forum and recognizes it. You can edit your post now to remove any info that you don't think is a good idea to share publicly. There's a private area of this forum that might be safer for you to post in.
Generally, to change custody the courts have to be convinced that it's in the child's best interests. Something big would usually have to change (say, if you were moving to another state and your ex could keep the kid in the same school district; or if your ex can prove abuse/parental alienation). If your child is doing well with the 50/50 and nothing has changed, then the courts aren't likely to award him full custody. Unfortunately, he's not above playing dirty, so you have to prep yourself for that.
Have you gotten a lawyer? You really should. I'm sorry that you're facing this, I hope that things get easier for you and your family.
Do you have a lawyer? You have got to hire a lawyer pronto if you don't have one already. A good lawyer. The best one you can afford. And I would ask them immediately for advice, perhaps about asking the court to appoint a parenting evaluator or gardiam ad litem for your child if that would be reasonable. (We had a parenting evaluator and she was worth her weight in gold. But, I know it's harder when it's a revision of custody.)
Also, I would take your children's names out of your post. It is too easy to search and find stuff like this if you post too much specific info.