Originally Posted by blessedwithboys
Sorry, but there is no leave of absence from parenting. If you do this, your ex will make it look like you abandoned them and he will get full custody. Unless that is what you actually want...
I agree, this is not
true. Plenty of parents (yes, mothers) have jobs that require them to leave home for weeks, even months, at a time. I have a few aunts that need to travel to another country periodically throughout the year, and they don't take their school-age kids with them. Army parents often have to leave for many months. When I was 7, my mother was called into active duty and I was with my dad (my parents divorced when I was 2 or 3) for a year. When one parent, even the primary one (assuming there is
one primary caregiver), temporarily has to leave for business/school/family reasons- it's almost always easier not to uproot the kids and to leave them at home with the other parent. This may not happen in every single family, but it is far
from unheard of.
The biggest question here is how willing the OP's stbx is willing to work with her. What I listed above worked in no small part because my parents worked together. My dad had no desire to steal custody out from under my mom, and my mom even let my dad live in our house for the year to make the transition easier for me. My parents had been divorced for 4 years, though. Emotions are highest right after the divorce and your new co-parenting relationship has not yet formed. It would be a lot harder to do immediately after divorcing.
If you trust him implicitly
, you could ask stbx to have the kids during the week for that semester- you could still help with homework (either in person or over skype) and see them on weekends- basically the same as what you're planning, but without you moving 6 hours away. But that is a BIG if
You can find solutions that will work. You aren't hte first parent to have to start work before their kids start school, there are options. If it's really going to be easier for you to (and, again, you trust your stbx) have your ex have the kids during the week, though, you may be able to find a way to make it work. Are you working with a lawyer? You could see about getting this exception written into the custody agreement, and that once you finish the semester you'll return to 50/50.