Summer visitation (x-posted in Blended forum)
I am wondering how others handle summer visitation schedules. The divorce agreement between ex and I states that DS can visit Ex for two 2-week periods during the summer, but it does not include anything about a deadline for Ex to let me know the dates he would like to have DS.
This has not been too much of an issue in the past, as Ex usually takes DS for just one week (which usually is the same week each year). But this year, Ex wants DS for 2 weeks, which are not around the time he usually has DS during the summer, and he just told me this yesterday. I have already scheduled camps, activities, and vacations that I am now going to have to cancel or move around. (Yes, I realize this part is my fault, and no, unfortunately, Ex will not agree to take DS to any of the scheduled activities.)
I'm looking at this as a "live and learn" kind of experience, and one I want to avoid for next year. So, do you have any sort of built in deadline about these things in your agreement? And since I don't, what is the best way for me to handle this...I can ask Ex in writing to let me know which dates he would like DS for the summer by a certain time, but will that hold up legally if issues come up? Or should I contact a lawyer and try to add more detailed guidelines into our agreement?