Let Ex's email slide or correct it?
So the background is that DD is nearly 3, and ex and I have been split since before she was born. In the custody documents, I have full custody and 100% parenting time, because ex and I filed the petition to have it that way. In the actual world, he gets time with DD every other week, currently for 8 hours each time.
Ex sent me an email yesterday with, among other things, a paragraph talking about how great of a parent he is (always has nutritious food available, DD feels safe there, etc). I feel like I should set the record straight, because I have some signs that while the visits are not dangerous, they aren't going very well for DD. DD is sometimes ok with visits and other times, she is very distressed and screams about how she doesn't like dad and doesn't want to go. She nearly always has emotional/behavioral issues the evening that she comes back. And she always comes back so hungry and thirsty that she's angry.
Because Ex has said before that he plans to file for more time with DD, that makes me wonder if he wrote that email to have a paper trail that supposedly shows he's such a great parent. On the other hand, he rarely does what he says he'll do, including file to change visitation/custody. And, the last time I said something to him about how DD comes back from visitation was when she wasn't changed for so long she had a rash and had peed entirely through her diaper and pants. When I said something about it to Ex over text, he blew up and sent angry texts and voicemails to me, accusing me of jumping to conclusions and acting against DD's interests, etc. He even hounded me about it when we met in person, demanding that I tell him I thought he was a good parent.
So... I don't really want to stir stuff up when I can just let it slide, but I also don't want to let him make a false paper trail for his possible custody plans. I feel like the two options are either to 1 respond back to the other parts of the email and don't even bother trying to set the record straight because I already keep my own records of the visitation problems or 2 respond and directly but politely say that there are problems with food and DD's emotional state when she comes back.
If this helps, my partner is usually at home when DD goes to visits and comes back, and he can confirm that she is often distressed before and after.