I don't know how much I've really talked about this here, but I want to know what my rights are or if I have any rights.
Tim (Owen's father) is moving to IL (from NH, where his son lives) in April.
He says that he wants to have lots of contact and such and is going to court to set SOMETHING up.
There is no custody rights established between us.
I don't really (after A LOT of thought) feel comfortable with Owen leaving to be 1000 miles away from me for a week at a time for 4 weeks a year.
Call me a bitch or what not (bc you KNOW he does!) but I don't want him being that far away from me.
His father thinks he's going to be able to keep a close contact with Owen, and that's being 1000 MILES AWAY! He doesn't even have close contact NOW and he lives 20 MILES away!
What is this decision going to do to Owen? Tim vowed that Owen would never grow up feeling what Tim felt growing up after his parents allowed his grandparents to adopt him, and his parents moved to Milwaukee. I say this is the same thing, and it SUCKS that he's going to start this trend over and over again. HE says that I'm already "ruining" him bc of my co sleeping habits, and the fact that I have another baby from another man... (HE ALWAYS THROWS THIS INTO OUR ARGUMENTS!!!)
hhhhh. I don't know the point of this post... I just want to know what I can do to ensure that Owen's best interest is at heart. I know I *should* allow him to go to Chicago a couple of times a year, but don't think Tim is a capable parent... and think that bc TIM is CHOOSING to move out there, I shouldn't HAVE to allow Owen to leave me sometimes...
A VERY SAD, and feeling like a VERY bad mommy,