I would like to hear from any of you mommas who have an ex who has regular visits with your children. How involved are they in your life? Do you get along? Do you want to? How much time do they spend with the child/children?
My ex is starting to have visitation after not being around for 3 years. I keep asking myself why am I doing this?
I'm in a really challenging place in my life right now because I have very little support, work full time, dh is still happily nursing (though I'm hinting at weaning), we use AP as much as works for us, and he sleeps with me. I have no social life and with ex wanting to see dh now, I'm so afraid of the ex becoming my life -- by virtue of having to deal with him.
I am in counseling (he's agreed to attend a session) and we do have a parenting plan that basically says I call the shots.
I just don't want this guy in my life and I'm so confused about what is the best thing for dh, who has never even asked about a daddy so far. I feel weird introducing him into dh's life when I would not choose to have him in his life. He was abusive to me during our brief marriage and I left because of it. He's dealt with some of it and is of course being very pleasant to deal with in the moment because he knows I'll bag if he pulls the same crap again.