Well me and my ex split up about 2 months ago now. He is in TN and I moved to FL and am living with my mom. We have a 23 month old dd and I am really disagreeing wtih him on custody issues.
Right now she is visiting him she has been up there for 2 weeks. It was an abrupt stop to nursing and I miss her so much. I am goin up next monday to get her. I would have gone up there right now but I couldn't get off work. I work in the evenings now so my mom can watch her at night for me.
Anyways, my ex is wanting physical joint custody of her, and we live 12 hours away from each other right now. He is wanting to do 1 month with me and 1 month with him. I think this is nuts! I know he wants to see her and I don't want to be away from her that long, But I am trying to think of her first! I honestly think that that type of an arrangement is going to be too hard on her.
She needs some kind of stability and moving every month , I think, is going to be to detremental to her emotionally and mentally! Does anyone know of any links to information on the effects of this on a child?
He has mentioned maybe moving down here, but he changes his mind every week. He says "I miss you, I want to try and work things out" then in the next breath " I just really don't want tolive in FL"
I just don't know what to do. We haven't filed for anything legally yet. We weren't married, lived together for 6.5 years. I found out I have to be in fl for 6 months for it to be considered my dd's home state. Otherwise I would have to go to TN to file for custody. Everything has been pretty amicable so far. I am afraid that if I start to make a big stink now, he will file up there.
Sorry for rambling so long! Any advice would be helpful!