Hi! This is my first post here. I was referred here by a member of ProMom site. (it is a great site for bf moms). I am a single mom of my 11week old dd. I left my boyfriend a week or so before dd was born. Many reasons! He didn't want the baby- we had only known eachother a month when i got pregnant. That was a HUGE mistake on my part!! He partied and drank and drugged my whole pregnancy, while i took care of his 2 yearold that he has custody of (don't ask me how!!). It was a terrible enviornment for a chid to be around, so FINALLY, i decided to leave and move back with my parents. They are really supportive and i am so greatful!! My ex even walked out of the hospitol, wanting nothing to do with me and dd. I don't want him around her AT ALL!! He wants me back now and says he wants to be with dd alot, but i know how he is and how he treats his other daughter. I guess i am venting, but i really need advice on how to deal with this situation.
I talked to a lawyer and he said that he would probably get supervised visits, but i am not sure. Ex says he will lie in court and deny whatever i say. Even the lawyer asked if i had thought about leaving the state!!
Does anyone have any similar experiences? And any advice?
P.S. I know that the general opinion is that my dd should be able to have a relationship with her father and that it is important for her to know him. . . . . .
I guess, i just think that as her mother, it is my responsibility to keep her safe, and even though i made a mistake by having a child with a person like him, I am trying to turn my life back around and give us a good chance at a new and better life.