I am a single mother - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 9 Old 11-21-2005, 11:43 AM - Thread Starter
 
jannan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: san francisco
Posts: 2,407
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
he moved out yesterday and got on a plane to his country. he says he'll be back in may of next year to see dd. she cried last night for her dad. it is not as bad as i thought. or maybe i was just ready for it..................
i really thought i'd be a mess but i feel fine.
jannan is offline  
#2 of 9 Old 11-21-2005, 04:23 PM
 
Dragonfly's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: On the Brink
Posts: 6,945
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I know this has been a long time coming for you, jannan. I hope your baby girl handles it all okay and am glad you're dealing well.
Dragonfly is offline  
#3 of 9 Old 11-21-2005, 04:30 PM
 
pranamama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Pacific NW
Posts: 5,096
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
pranamama is offline  
#4 of 9 Old 11-21-2005, 09:13 PM
 
MsChatsAlot's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Posts: 5,102
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I hope your little one adjusts. It can be difficult for them.
I'm glad that you are holding up well.
MsChatsAlot is offline  
#5 of 9 Old 11-21-2005, 10:45 PM
 
Jster's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: Gulf coast of Florida
Posts: 3,016
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Welcome, and hope your adjustments go well! Hopefully he'll be good about keeping in touch...my girls' dad is living out of the country, but he does call three times a week and writes a letter about once a month. Perhaps after he gets settled in you can encourage it, if that's possible (it was a little hard on me in the beginning, but I've gotton used to and appreciate it now).
Jster is offline  
#6 of 9 Old 11-22-2005, 08:36 AM
 
BelovedK's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: wandering around.... with an aim.
Posts: 16,877
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I just don't understand how a dad can be so far away from his DC.

I hope you continue to do well...be prepared for the ups and downs, they will come. I hope your DD adjusts for the both of you

                                Whatever will be, already is...
 
BelovedK is offline  
#7 of 9 Old 11-22-2005, 01:04 PM - Thread Starter
 
jannan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: san francisco
Posts: 2,407
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
i don't understand it either. what if i just took off for another country for 5 months..............now i'm feeling angry.
dd is crying every night for her dad
we slept in today
she'll go to school late
my thing now is, how do i compensate for his absence?
or can i?
i dont' know how to be a single mother
jannan is offline  
#8 of 9 Old 11-22-2005, 01:09 PM
 
Raynbow's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Posts: 996
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Well... and this probably isn't terribly helpful right now, but the simple answer is that you do what you need to do. You don't try to be her father, you just be the best momma you can be and she will be fine.
You care for her, you love her, you be there for her... and she will be fine, as will you. She will eventually start to thrive, as will you.
It will be okay, really.
Raynbow is offline  
#9 of 9 Old 11-22-2005, 01:25 PM
 
Ruthla's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: Long Island, NY
Posts: 47,607
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 4 Post(s)


Change can be hard- but think of this as a new beginning for both of you!

You can't be your DD's father, and you can't reasure her that he still loves her because you're not him and you don't know what he feels. What you can do is tell her that YOU love her and you'll always be there for her, and it's OK to be sad and cry.

Ruth, single mommy to Leah, 19 (in Israel for another school year), Hannah, 18 (commuting to college), and Jack, 12(homeschooled)
Ruthla is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off