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#31 of 53 Old 01-12-2006, 11:04 PM
 
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Did he call? :
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I turned my phone off during yoga class last night. I had no idea there were so many ways to turn myself into a pretzel; the class went way beyond its usual scope.

I have been reticent to give you a home number because of the unspoken rules of internet dating (no home telephone number, meet in a well-lit public area). Of course, I am new to this, and may not have a correct familiarity with protocol. (Perhaps I should shadow a more experienced internet dater. I might be well-served to follow someone on a date and wear a trainee button while carrying a notebook.)

My additional interest is in sparing my girls (2 1/2 and 4 1/2) the inevitable confusion they would have with a man contacting me at the house. I know some older children who had been exposed to their parents dating, and I don't think it the best option, especially in beginning stages. My endeavors, however, may be overly cautious.

I think I figured out messages on my mobile phone.
Should I send the above as an email?

I need to go out to the car and check my mobile phone. Back in a minute. You are m ore nervous than I am!
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He called at seven. This suspense almost makes me not want to "play it cool" like my mother taught me. The phone does not work in the house.

I will return the call tomorrow when the kida are gone (for the weekend : ).
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When is the date? I'm excited for you!!

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I am really having second thoughts about karaoke.

I was invited to a little party I would love to attend at 4:30. It's a bring a friend type thing. If I can get there early, maybe we can do coffee, then, if all goes well, i can invite him to the party.

Besides, the party will be the homebirth litmus test.
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He emailed, too, early this morning. He gave me directions to the karaoke place.

I was up all night with food poisoning. I should take the dates on packages seriously. :Puke it was REALLLLLY bad. I am a little hoarse from puking. Maybe it will make my voice sound sultry. "Oooh, sweetie, it's just the voooomit."

I am needing to figure out what to do with myself now that the kids are gone for the weekend. My idea was more sitting in a bookstore with some tea or maybe going to a museum, not goofball karaoke.
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hey paloma, just go for the unusual for a change. u might see a side of him that might make u feel - gosh this guy is LOONY or man he is sooo cooool.

i am lost too when my ex takes my dd for a weekend night overnight. i always want to lay in bed late and just laze around till she comes home, but somehow it never happens.

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I am really having second thoughts. He seems like too much of a charmer. "Seeing you would be a wonderful end to the week" ummm, it's just a little too much, I think. I told him I had plans when he asked me out one day this week. There was an uncomfortable silence on the other end. I will not explain that it was a yoga class. Plus, I checked on my phone, and he called several times. I have the feeling he might be the kind of guy who gets posessive after one date.

I am listening to my recently rehabbed guts (see previous food-poisoning posts) and saying "no."

I will let you guys know if something else comes along. There may just be a cute professor this semester.





I resolve to wink at three men this weekend.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for two years that I met on match.com. I think internet dating is a great way to meet people. It's a great way to practice and get clear about who you want to date. I put my picture up. I was very upfront about having children and being very committed to them. I would only consider men that had been divorced with children. When I met my bf for the first time, I took my male cousin and my girlfriend and her boyfriend ( who she met on match and later married). Good luck!!!
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Did ya go on the date?? huh, huh?? Do tell
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No, I am not going to date him. I can't explain it, but it feels wrong. I think it's him, but it may be the timing.

I went to a fun small party and then to a bookstore/coffeeshop and stole some recipes there from a cookbook.

Do I need to reply to him and tell him why?
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Go with your feelings mama

Did you just blow him off or let him know you couldnt make it to karaoke?
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I think it's nice to let someone know you're not interested.

I know when I've dated people, I HATE the situations that are left hanging. It seems like simple courtesy to let someone know you're no longer interested. After a really bad date, I simply email and say something like, "You seem like a really nice person, but I just don't feel a connection."

At least then, they know.
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I think it's nice to let someone know you're not interested.

I know when I've dated people, I HATE the situations that are left hanging. It seems like simple courtesy to let someone know you're no longer interested. After a really bad date, I simply email and say something like, "You seem like a really nice person, but I just don't feel a connection."

At least then, they know.
I agree, letting him know would be the polite thing to do. Be honest too, that way you're not leaving him hanging and he will most likely leave you alone.

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my friends and i call it the "thanks but no thanks" conversation. i think it's necessary. "we're just not a match" - dating is about trying people on and deciding if they are a fit. good luck!
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I joined singleparentmeet.com a little over a year ago when I was single and it was ok. I did put up a picture because I preferred seeing pics of people I talked to. Pictures defenitely generate more interest but I did notice an influx of dirty old men e-mails after my pic went up I look really young and for some reason people older than my dad are attracted to me.

Must laugh b/c I joined that one also and am getting flirts from guys 40-61 years old : I'd say 90% of my flirts are from that age range (for those who don't know I'm 21, look like I'm 16). I did get one today from a cutie I think he's 30, so not too old. He's a police officer, has 3 kids (9, 6, and 3) and *only* lives 2 hours away We've sent a few messages today

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I dodged the call when he was supposed to call back and give directions.

I will email him.
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my friends and i call it the "thanks but no thanks" conversation. i think it's necessary. "we're just not a match" - dating is about trying people on and deciding if they are a fit. good luck!

Don't you just hate that 'dreaded conversation'? at least you usually don't know the person IRL , at least w/ internet dating. At my age though, I just don't care as much

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Yeah, I have never let someone down gracefully. Ever. Of course, I have not been much of a dater.

Great practice!
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Paloma I think I want to spend my summer in New Hampshire
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Summer in NH, Pranamama? Seacoast, men in shorts and hiking boots? College towns? MMMMM

I did send the email. It is below:


I am likely going to deep six the xxxx profile. I have come to the conclusion that I am not ready for dating, and my involvement or lack thereof at the moment would not serve my counterpart well.

Thank you for your kind gesture and compliment. Have fun with karaoke.

fondly,

xxxxx
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I met my husband on the internet in 1997 and we met after 5 months and married a few years later,we are now getting divorced,but I think that it was really no different then meeting someone in the local area,I dated guys from local areas and you really don't know a person until you live with them.Now I have my Ali,who I met on the internet too,we will meet this summer and we have gotten serious,he wants to marry me and wants me to come and live in Holland with him while he studies and works there with his job,then we would come back to the USA and he would work here.But I feel like I know him really well,we talk on the phone and internet every day,he calls and talks to my mother and she just loves him too.I pray that it all works out,but that is with any relationship.I have met some local guys,but they just aren't what I am looking for.This guy is the one for me,so I am going to do it and be with him.I think there are pros and cons in any dating situation,with the internet you just get to meet people you wouldn't get to meet if it was just local area.
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Paloma that is a fine email. We don't call it a seacoast over here, that sounds so much more fine! expecially with those adornments
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