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Originally Posted by fek&fuzz
Does your ex love your children so little that you honestly think he will feel free, and not actually have to bear the pain of living everyday without his children, not seeing them when they wake up, not tucking them into bed, not having casual day to day conversations and silences, but having to make every visit an "event", just sending a check every month.
That doesn't sound like freedom to me. That sounds like hell. Yeah, he'll be able to drink and go to the gym and ride his motorbike, but if he's any sort of dad he'll wish he could trade all that for time with his kids. Not having kids might feel like freedom if you've never had them, but if you have kids and then they are gone from you - I don't think most parents would consider that cause for celebration.
I do see where you are coming from, but you have a different kind of freedom. The freedom to see your kids grow up, to know them intimately, to just be with them. He has to start his life over, to form a life without his kids, you get to keep living your life with them.
Originally Posted by Jilian
I can see where you're coming from and it's ok to feel like that sometimes. I get jealous that my ex gets to sleep in a lot, and go out to dinner and have drinks with his GF and friends whenever he wants - while I'm here caring for our son. But then I remember he's also missing out on hugs and kisses from our DS, all the cool pictures DS makes, and just spending time with DS. That always makes me feel better.
Originally Posted by freewitheft
Even the little things, like deciding what kind of pictures to hang on the walls without negotiations, is very freeing!
Midwifery student , Mama to my 4 amazing kids.