I have
uninsured medical expenses cover at 20/80 me/him. He makes 80% of the children's combined support.
1% of his salary every year, until he retires, payable in full by April 15, for my retirement purposes. (too many single moms end up working, supporting themselves and the children with no extra money for retirement) He has yet, in five years of divorce paid this..... I am not too worried, I have the court order and eventually I will start taking him to small claims for each year. (most likely this year)
9.9% interest on all unpaids.
48 hour notice of visits. first refusal, I have them all birthdays, we work out an EOH, thanksgiving... his, Winter break.... mine, Easter is always mine.... spring break EOH.
CS continues until they are out of college, after age 23 the CS amount goes to them directly if they are in Grad school. His family has a family trust that SHOULD pay for their college... if not, I have a 529 that I am putting some into, and we will pay books and tuition for undergrad, and as much as we can with grad.
I wish...
Now that the kids are older, and soccer costs over 900 a year, and the girl's riding lessons are no longer enough to do what she wants.. (she wants to jump and dressage.. with her own horse) I wish I had put in that he pays half of these expenses.
half of summer camps expenses.
half of transportation costs... they go to a non local school, and will need their own transportation, whether it is a car or a decent bike in high school. (no easy city bus route, and live over 10 miles from the high school they will attend.. international high school, Spanish immersion el, and middle schools.. public, but there is no way we could afford to live in the neighborhood)
That if we ever had to go back to court because we could not work things out... HE paid all legal fees.
IMO, CS is only for the basics, food, shelter, clothing, childcare. In a perfect world, my former spouse would happily pony up for the activities his children love and would happily take care of their medical costs without my having to take him to court. It is not happening.
Before you all think I am being way to harsh with him, he makes well over 100K a year, and draws over 50K a year from his family trust.