I just need to vent before I explode.
My divorce is final,but ex still stays here quite a bit.He sleeps in my attic.He is homeless,has no job,and has not given me a dime since Jan.He gets food stamps and he does give me the card to get things the kids need,but 90% he spends or tries to sell
them to his friends(he'll go buy their lunch at the store and they give him cash) to get cigs or vodka
.This is his last month of getting food stamps,since the maximum is 3 months for a single person without disabilities.So he will be bringing in NOTHING.
He expects me to cook for him,do his laundry,clean up his messes.He is very disrespectful to me.Leaves dirty socks everywhere,doesn't shower for days and will try to sleep in my bed
.Makes coffee which I do not drink,but leaves a sugar and coffee mess everywhere,eats or cooks and just leaves stuff everywhere.His stuff is in my hallway in garbage bags,and he leaves it such a mess(not to mention the smell from his nasty socks
: ),and I end up cleaning it because it's just gross.He smokes his cigs in my hallway,and puts them out on the steps!!
I cannot take it anymore.My dad owns the building,and he can't stand what ex is doing to his house.If he comes here drunk and knocks on the door and I ignore it,he climbs the fire escape or the porch and forces his way through the window or door.He's broken 5 doors(!!!),2 beyond repair,put holes in walls, and broke a window.Plus broke the child safety locks I had on the attic window.
I've called the police too many times to count.They won't do anything but tell me to get a restraining order,which I tried but he was never served because he has no address.The police can't serve him,it has to be the sherrif.I'm at a loss as to what to do.When he broke in the last time I told the cops I wanted him arrested,but they refused to.They even accused me of lying,saying he didn't break in since he was crying(he was drunk of course) and saying "she let me in the front door,I would never break in".
They wouldn't even look at the broken lock on the window,just saying it was closed so he couldn't have broken in.
Uh,he closed it!So I feel like calling the police is no longer an option.
I can't live this way anymore.He's not here now,he left after he put our kids on the bus.I locked the doors but I know he'll be coming back.He even goes to my mom's and cries to her,so she feels bad and calls me and asks me to let him in.
Any ideas of what I can do?Anyone know I long I legally have to hold his stuff?I want it out of here.I want every trace of him out of here.He needs to get help.I've tried everything to help him.I even was able to get him free healthcare for a year,so he could get free alcohol treatment and he refuses to go.I found out about shelters and told him where to go.He knows about the soup kitchen(food is actually very good) and the food banks.I've done everything and more to help him.I'm done.My dad says it's like a horror movie "The Ex-Husband Who Wouldn't Leave"
.Thanks for reading.