I DID have fun planting those trees. And a friend came over and helped me- it must be nice having muscles...
I have a unique situation up here in the mountains.
To backtrack: I had my first son at 19 with a guy named Mike. Never married. We split pretty quickly and he kinda came around when ds1 was around 8 or so, then really became an involved dad when ds1 was about 11 or 12. Ds1 is 14 now.
When ds1 was 5, I married a very nice guy named Will, and had ds2. Nice as he was, he wasn't too into working on a job or on the relationship, so I had a brief fling and we split up.
Fastforward to summer 2000. Chatting with Will & his SO, who had a house (inherited from his mom) up in Dutch Flat. They were relating the enjoyment they get from their trips up there. I asked why they didn't move & they said because of custody of ds2, didn't want to screw up his life. Funny, I'd resigned myself to staying in San Jose for the same reason. So I say "why don't we all move- I want the heck outta the city!!" so we all thought about it: Mike & SO, Will & SO, and me & SO(ex now). My then-SO and I went up one weekend, contacted the realtor Will recommended, this house & property had just come on the market- I fell in love at first sight, we made an offer, it was accepted.
So in July, all six of us moved up here. I to Gold Run, Will to Dutch Flat, (10 min drive) and Mike to Auburn (25 min drive). Yes- totally amazing! I am so blessed. They are both excellent dads.
ds2 goes to a little country school in Dutch Flat; Will's SO teaches there. Ds1 goes to Colfax High; takes the bus from my house & his dad drives him from his house. I teach at Placer HS in Auburn. We all get together occasionally for sushi parties or to hang out. Pretty nice setup.
So custody: Each boy spends alternating weeks w/either parent. But their schedules are offset; ds1 is home starting tuesdays, and ds2 is home starting fridays. This is due to ds1's work schedule, and I hated it but it's okay now- I get 3 days w/ds1 before ds2 joins us, they're together 4 days, then I get ds2 for 3 days. It hasn't affected their brotherly relationship, oddly enough. They seem as close as ever. SOOOooo- that's how I get 4 days of solitude every other weekend. I love it.
Well off to write a report
Blessings & I do hope to see you some day! Let me know if you'd like me to get you some local info.