Thanks for the responses, I REALLY agree about not having a parade of men through the life of a child. I already made a mistake in this area. l I didn't think the relationship would go bad the way it did, but when it did I didn't realize right away the significant impact it had on my two year old. It wasn't until I started talking to him about this man and his daughter did I make room for ds to process his loss of them in our lives which was huge for him. He would talk about them a lot at all different times in his 2 year old way ..." I like Pete and Hannah"... "Hannah has this truck" "Pete and mommy aren't friends anymore"... I was so glad I got the support I did that led me to starting this dialogue with him. What led me to it was his acting out more with biting and hitting, which granted, are normal two year old behaviors, but they came out with a new intensity after the break up of the relationship.
It's an ongoing learning experience, and I'm happy to say that ds is over the real intense biting stuff and moma has learned a lot about relationships, parenting, and how very much the young ones really do know and feel about what is going on around them.