Hi mamas, I have been lurking here for months and months. This week I actually started playing around with a few internet dating sites, just to see what's out there and what it's like. For me this was a big step, not sure if I was ready and what my motives were, but then again, it's been interesting.
So far what I've noticed is I tend to be much more yay or nay based on looks than I am in real life. I wonder if that's a function of the medium? Do you find that? Or are looks a higher priority for me than I realize?
Also: I get a lot of responses and I am not sure what the ettiquette is around responding to winks or emails. If I just don't think it's something I want to pursue, is it rude of me to just shine them on? I don't want to be rude, but I also don't know if sending a simple thanks but no thanks will actually make them feel any better? I also feel like first responses are so impersonal any way, they are based on your photo and your profile, so it's not like I am walking away from a PERSON who has come up to me and said Hi, yk? I did put a disclaimer in on one of my profiles saying something to the effect that I am still very early on in thinking about dating so don't take it personally if I don't respond or if I correspond only briefly. What do you guys do?
I have heard from a couple guys whom I find intriguing, though, and so it is definitely fun. I suppose even that part gets old after a while, if you find that they are totally differnt in person or whatnot. Have you guys had a lot of experiences with really thinking you "knew" the guy through phone or email and then he is totally different? I seem to recall one post on this thread about some guy who was even fabulous on a first date and then scheduled a massage for the first part of the would-be second date--yikes. I imagine that kind of sudden realization of what a loser someone is is shocking and discouraging after you thought you had a good sense of them. Oh, but enough about my marriage.
One other question, oh Experienced Ones: Any tips for getting to know someone by email?
I'm just no new at this ladies!
Thanks for listening.