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Wow... I see im not the only one with dating issues....
This is the quick version of my last relationship. Mind you I had been single and not dated for 5 years prior to this.
SO! About 5 months ago now... i joined eharmony.com met a great guy (great i geuss THEN) and we dated for 4 months. I SO thought it was it, We were soulmates! looking to get married this year... Then it all falls apart. He completely changed...
WHY! WHY WHY!! I seriously wnat to cry. Why cant i have that family and house...
Just needed to get that out without all the details that im so sick of saying and seriously make me wanna throw up when i think about it.
He even wanted to Drop off christmas presents and have a "proper good bye" WTF does that mean!!
It just makes me wanna throw up... i think i will be single forever honestly.
So, I'm feeling really really sad right now.
The guy I posted about before... we met online. We emailed, talked on the phone and went on a great date. We went out again a few nights later. We had dinner and went to a club to hear a new Irish band. We made out in his car for 45 minutes after. I had a wonderful wonderful time. I had that feeling as though I could really fall for this guy. Similar parenting philosophies, lots to talk about... I felt so excited. He called the next day to thank me for dinner (I paid this time) and tell me that he had a good time. We had a short chat because he had his kids and I was in the car and a little lost. I haven't heard from him since. Well actually I texted him later that night to congratulate him on his favorite football team winning a big game and he texted back. But that's it. That was almost 1 week ago.
I've been on the dating site we met on since then and noticed that he's been logging on regularly. I just popped on for a moment now and it showed that he is online now.
A male friend told me that I should go ahead and give him a call. And I was thinking about it, but I think I've decided not to (unless you wise women convince me otherwise). I just feel very very vulnerable. It is very hard to put myself out there. And I don't want to. I want him to want to talk to me and want to see me. It's true that he has done all of the initiation, but I've been very responsive. I really think I made my interest clear. And it was only a couple of dates. It's not like he was initiating for weeks or anything.
Don't you think if he was feeling similar interest and excitement that he would have called or at least emailed by now? Do you think I'm crazy for not calling? Do you think I'm not ready for dating if I'm feeling so vulnerable and so easily hurt?
I'm not mad or anything. And if he called right now I'd be happy to talk with him. But I just feel really disappointed. And I feel like there's something wrong with me, you know? And I've managed to re-convince myself that I don't have time or energy for dating anyway...
Man this is hard.
Oh... I also wanted to send you a Spring Sun. That must feel so confusing. You sound like you have your head on straight.